so about 30 min ago i found this out
she has lung cancer but i dont know if its full blown or if its something that can be taken care of...........(she found this out through a biopsy yesterday)
we are gonna visit her sometime this afternoon
and my question to you is.....when i see her what am i supposed to say......i think we have a pretty good relationship and i speak on the phone with her on the regular, and i am kind of scared that when i see her later i am gonna say something dumb or something uncalled for, THAT..... or i kind of think im gonna be pretty reserved and not say anything at all(which is something i really dont want)
i am gonna be honest and say that this stuff creeps me out...some people with cancer find out that they only have 6 weeks and so on~~~and i am so terrified that that is what shes gonna tell me
i need some sugg
ive NEVER dealt with ANYTHING like this b-4 in my life
and DO NOT know how to deal
T~I~A
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2007-03-01 02:06:39 · 6 answers · asked by bRoWn eYeD BuTTeRfLy®210~TX 6 in Health ➔ Other - Health
people all deal with things in there own way you have every right to be scared and just tell your grandma that you love her and ask the doctors near by any questions you have some cancers can be taken out but you will only know how bad it is by asking questions ! when it comes to your grandma just give a bug hug and talk normally with her about normal stuff she will be scared and someone treating her no different makes a big difference hope all goes well for you all
2007-03-01 02:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by fulhamish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I'm sorry to hear about your grandma. My dad passed almost three years ago from lung cancer. My daughter was the apple of his eye. She could only cry when she saw him in the hospital after the dr. told us. Honestly when ever she saw him she just held his hand and told him how much she loved him. I hope when the time comes that your family strongly considers Hospice for your grandma. Without them I don't know what my dad or the rest of us would have done. That organization is truly heaven sent , they are incredible. My dad was never in any pain and they always spoke to him in a gentle manner and with respect. I know this may be a very difficult time for your family so spend as much time with your grandma as you can. She knows your there even when she is sleeping.
2007-03-01 02:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Annabelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful, she may be just as creeped out as you are. Don't bombard her right away, start out saying hi and give her a hug and then ask how she is feeling. This may actually get her to open up to you right away without you even asking.
If not let her know that you would like to help her out in any way and if she is ok talking about what the future may hold (ie chemo, radiation, etc.) I would not jump in right away and ask how long she has, I am sure that she does not have all of the facts just yet and this is a perfect opportunity for her family to meet with the doctors with her.
Always tell her that you love her and that you are there for her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
2007-03-01 02:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Important 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs your positive attitude. You tell her you're gonna always be there for her. If you get teary eyed, chances are that she needs a good cry too. If you can, start sending her funny cards to cheer her up, when you can't be there. Share with her things going on in your life so she can take the focus off of what she's facing. Just be the you that you've always been. Don't walk around like she's gonna go any moment. I'm praying for her.
2007-03-01 02:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have worked with people that have had cancer & have seen how some of thier relitives handle the situation. I think you are worrying yourself alittle too much as you will find what you have to say will come easy (even though it does not seem like it). Im sure your grandma will talk to you about what the doctors have said as to weather it is treatable and what treatment they are going to offer her. Here are some names of web sites that could help you more... http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/support_groups/006069.htm This is another cancerbackup site but this one offers cancer patients and their families the up-to-date information, practical advice and support they need to reduce the fear and uncertainty of cancer.
More cancer answers can be found (including ansers on lung cancer) http://Healthline.com
I hope this helped xx
2007-03-01 02:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by helen h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that she is still your Grandmother. The same person that she was yesterday and the day before. Treat her no differently than you ever did and you will be fine. She is going to want to discuss the cancer. Let her bring it up. Remember to tell her how much you love her. This was help ease the comfort level in discussing the cancer for both of you.
2007-03-01 02:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋