okay i met this girl kate a year and a half ago through my ex at the time amanda. it wound up i broke up with amanda and dated kate, who had a boyfriend at the time who was in florida. to make a long story short she wound up breaking up with him and just being mine. after eight months i moved in with her and it seemed so right. we had so much in common i am going to be 20 soon adn she is gonna be 19 soon. i just got a good job working for itt and am making good money but i am not home from 7 to abut 4. so she met this kid at college and it seemed like jus a friend from class. well i went on her myspace and saw a message he sent her. about how he cant wait to make out with her and watch lost this week. that was last tuesday when she told me she was going out withe her "friends" and it seems like she goes out with them alot since. i confronted her adn she denyed it and i told her i read it and she just b/s me. what should i do. i cant leave her, i love her so much but she wont be honest
2007-03-01 01:48:36 · 6 answers · asked by phallootboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she does love me she is afraid of telling me. i moved out last week well she kicked me out cause she wanted her space. it just sucks. i am texting her now asking her to tell me the truth and she gets angry at me. i ask and she swears up and down that nothing is going on... i am so lost. but then she calls me and wants to hang out and wants me to sleep over. i just went over last night and slept. just slept with her. and she did not want me to leave. then she disappears all day and claims her phone turned off. i will post the letter she wrote him on tuesday. its ****** up, i see it and she wont admit it. but she does not know i know her password. i know its stakerish but she told me before and i just remembered. she was so happy before and after she started talkin to this kid its been nothing but crazy. i am so confused on what to do?? i want to leave her but she still wants to be with me from what she says adn invites me out and to sleep over?? i just want to find a new girl...
2007-03-01 02:16:36 · update #1
Perhaps she is not being as honest with you as she should because she's concerned how you might react. You say that you "can't leave her", that you "love her so much" well, maybe she is feeling a bit overwhelmed by your feelings. The fact that her "friend" has posted an intimate message on her myspace and she did not remove it might be an indication that she wanted you to find out, but just doesn't have the courage to admit she has feelings for someone else.
The key to a successful relationship is communication and trust. It appears that she isn't willing to participate in either. Listen, you have an excellent career in front of you and at the age of 20, perhaps your focus should be on that...not her. Good Luck.
2007-03-01 02:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are wayyyy to young to be struggling over a situation like this. I hate to tell you, but if she's interested in other people there's not much you can do. Consider moving on, and finding a new girl who, not just has alot in common with you but can appreciate a relationship and a great guy like you. And don't rush it by moving in too soon.
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EDITTTT:
okay this girl now sounds like an emotional nut. She's playing what we like to call "head games", shes messing with you because she likes the attention, and is just using you dude. Move on.
2007-03-01 10:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by KLD it. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously you are at a different stage in your life. You are working being responsible and if she is not going to respect that then I would get out of that relationship. Because she is going to college there is lots of distractions and guys that will be chasing her. To be honest you guys are really young to move in together anyways. I am 22 and my girlfriend asked me to move in with her next year and to me it was a no brainer, 'NO' but it is hard because you do live together. If she really cares about you she will stop being sketchy and be honest with you. Be careful though, don't let her fool you because girls are good at that.
2007-03-01 09:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Derek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH! That has to suck but the thing is does she really love you? If you love her that's gr-8 and all but a realtionship has to be between 2 people not one!!! Good luck!
2007-03-01 09:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by HelpMe123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put her in her place and smack her best friend out
you have to be the man, "say look girl you aint going out because i said so now get in" if she says anything back hook up with one of her friends then see how she reacts to it
2007-03-01 09:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by dave_6064 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a long xgat 2 explain ur feelins
2007-03-01 09:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by little_millsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋