Marriage destroys Love!
It's just a piece of paper!
2007-03-01 01:47:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I totally agree! I think a lot of women get married in order to have a wedding, and a lot of men do it because women pressure them to or they want to have kids.
It seems outdated. When women didn't work it was sort of an insurance that they would be "taken care of" financially while they did the brunt of the (house)work. Meaning if some man wanted to get out of it they would still be supporting the women who raised the kids, etc.
Some women I think do it 'cause they think it will change the guy or get them to act more mature. I think guys do it so they have something to b*%$# about with their buddies :)
That being said, I think there still are a few people that get married for good reasons and really do know what love is.
2007-03-01 02:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that people think they know what love is, but don't.
Marriage does not destroy love. People think they love someone, but really they are in lust with that person. They really don't know the person they "love". Often, the people have little in common other than physical attraction and grow apart.
A marriage license is much more than just a piece of paper. It has a very strong legal affect. People who are not married may not be able to make decisions for each other when one is incapacitated. If there is no will, an unmarried partner will not inherit anything. There are also tax differences.
That little piece of paper can mean the difference between being able to see your loved one while they are in ICU or not.
2007-03-01 10:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by David V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not just a piece of paper. It is a unity. It is just generally documented today for legal reasons.
If your "love" is destroyed by making this bond with someone...then it was never really there.
A lot of people confuse sexual attraction for love, and yeah after you get married...and you have been married for a while, the importance of sex does go down. (especially if you have kids)
Love is not a feeling that you have...the feeling that you have when you meet someone, the butterflies, that is just because you have something new and it makes you nervous. When you get used to it, the butterflies go away.
Love is a choice that you have to make, "do I want to put up with this person no matter what?" If the answer is yes then you have chosen to love that person.
2007-03-01 10:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage of convenience is the most reliable and steady. Folks marry sometimes simply to have a partner, thus avoiding a deep sense of loneliness. Also some marry for economical reasons since everything today is so expensive and the rents are through the roof. It's a lot easier to afford life's necessities with two paychecks. And of course some get married to have children. As far as love you are referring to the poet's imagination of an ideal state.
2007-03-01 09:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by mac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage does not work when their is no research at first into what marriage actually is and what is involved.
Marriage is giving, serving, unselfish love on both sides!
There are many great books out about marriage, but many do not read them, they are into la-la land, and think they will conquer the world with there love, but love is....GENTLE, ..( no yelling, demanding, rude remarks,...KIND, respectful, unselfish, forgiving ...it's PATIENT~ Yo! hold your anger! hold the frustration, life is hard, enjoy each other, learn to laugh at yourself!!
Get over yourself, Pride is a downfall in marriages.
Looking at other men or woman, is downright dumb!
Hold your spouse as the only one worthy to look at, no matter how handsome or pretty someone else may be, My husband says to me" she is very pretty, but you out do her by far!" I know I don't, but I just hold my head high and say..." thanks babe"
I could go on, but I think you get the drift......
Marriage can be fun, and well worth the road, if you take some lessons first, and it wouldn't hurt to also go for marriage counseling.
In the 40 years I've been married to my high-school sweetheart, we've went to many marriage seminars, some good, some not so good, but.....always something to learn.
:)
2007-03-01 10:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by tuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has a different perception of what love is! Yours seems way too romantic and socially far-fetched. Get a grip, analyze, and reconsider your opinion!
2007-03-01 09:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people get married with out knowing what love is, is because they are scared of being alone. know one wants to be alone all their life. it can be a deppressing time in your life. or they do it because they feel that, that's all they can do. most people dont know that they desirve (how ever you spell it) more or better.
2007-03-01 09:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jaci G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get married for their own reasons, everyone has their own beliefs...I'm guessing you may have already been burned. It's not the case for everyone.
2007-03-01 09:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is just a matter of economics.
2007-03-01 09:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think some people really think their in love
2007-03-01 10:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by arizonaprincess2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋