My bf went and tried to hook up with his ex.gf.I dont get it why would he go looking as in driving around her block for her at 7 a.m.?He works nights and drives through that area sometimes on his way home but would'nt he be tiered?.Six months ago i forced him to severe all contact and he did till 2 days ago till they hung out at first she turned him down?Then she called him back and said she changed her mind and they had sex!I am so upset i practically live with him and use his phone more than he does how could this happen ? Can he still have feelings after all this time?Was it just a fling?or does he have feelings?
2007-03-01 01:47:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to forgive him but dont understand him?I had to confront him and even then he tried to lie!
2007-03-01 01:48:58 · update #1
Jenny this dude has no respect for you and thinks he can walk all over your feelings and do as he pleases. If you stay in this relationship, you're just going to experience more of the same heartache. Dump this fool for good and be done with him. Forget about forgiveness, he doesn't deserve it.
2007-03-01 01:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to what everyone on Answers here is telling you. Get rid of him! Why would you want to forgive someone that so obviously does not love or respect you? Do you honestly believe if you forgave him that he'd stop seeing and bedding his ex and be true only to you?? I think not. For all you know he probably cheats on his ex too. He sounds like the kind of guy who can't be satisfied with just one woman.
Pack your things and tell him you hope he finds his ex home at 7 am the next time he goes looking for her. Tell him if she's not home not to bother crawling back to you. You're not a Kleenex...use once and discard after use. Find someone who knows how a woman should be treated and enjoys making you happy. Don't you deserve that much?
2007-03-01 10:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard as this may sound, you have to open your eyes. You where just a rebound, and he was never over his ex. Looks like you care for him very much to the point that you will forgive him and I understand that, but he will not stop hurting you like this. The best thing you can do is the hardest thing...you have to let him go. He as already made his bed with another women and as his own actions shows you he don't care much for you no more. Its a shame b/c good girls always get hurt.
Good Luck.
2007-03-01 09:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to forgive him, but his honesty and credibility are nothing.
Dump him. Find someone who will treat you like the lady you are and that you won't have to worry about cheating on you.
The answer to your question is that yes, he still has feelings for his ex. A "physical" desire like that does not last that long, and is more of a spur of the moment type of thing.
Just move on, girl, I know so many chicks in this kind of situation, and it really sucks because I know that it hurts, but they won't get out.
2007-03-01 09:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with krupsk. Let's face it if the guy could contain himself he would have. He obviously doesn't respect you if he thinks he can run his dirt, try to lie, and still have you in his life. Show him that you have respect for yourself. He may not be a bad person but if he's uncertain of what he wants (commitment-wise or person wise - there's a strong possibility he's still into his ex) then he shouldn't be wasting your time. Find someone that's worthy of it pronto.
2007-03-01 09:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he be visiting her after work or whatever. It might just be a fling. But if u see him smiling u already know he be loving her. You should try to look for someonelse. And if u luv him. Tell that ex to back off before u show her some of ur crazy moves. Tell her to get her own man
2007-03-01 09:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by Cherry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not trying to be harsh or anything but Let Him Go! One he must not care that much for you to even do something like that.Two your to damn good for him.Yeah ! I know what your thinking how do you know I'm to good for him.I know because your trying figure out weather its a fling or what some type of real feelings. Which is really not your job.Just do what Fantasia says and go ahead and free your self!
2007-03-01 10:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Y ask ME! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should kick your bf to the curb...he's playing you.
The thing is that the notion of fidelity is foreign to him, and this time it was his ex, next time it might be a stranger. He's not ready to settle down.
2007-03-01 09:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but he just used you for sex or a toy...He realy never got over his last girl friend and just wanted you for an easy lay..They still have feeling's for each other...
2007-03-01 09:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by all we want is a 1 nite stand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing you like a fiddle. Of course he can resist if he wants. The problem is he knows that if he grovels a little to you he can have both of you. My advice is to dump him and find someone who will not cheat on you and play you.
2007-03-01 09:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by krupsk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋