i have been talking to this boy for about 6 months now and i would say that we are really close but i seem to be the one that has to get in touch with him first all the time, and if he says that he will text me and stuff he NEVER does and it really annoys me also sometimes he won't talk to me for like weeks on end and he blames it all on having family problems ... is this guy for real??
the other day in the phone he said he loved me. please tell me what he is about??
2007-03-01 01:41:05 · 17 answers · asked by <3...Carla...<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He could be telling the truth. When I was an adolescent, I was not allowed to have any privacy on the phone. I was not allowed to touch the computer (for what that was worth back then) and cell phones were big things carried in briefcases by the wealthy. I could not leave the house before I had supper, which was usually 6:30pm, when my Dad drug his drunk @$$ home to eat and sleep to go in for 1am. I had to be back by 11pm, or I would be locked out, even in winter.
If he's having half the fun I did as a teen, thanks to my abusive mother, (who of most people did not believe my plight, as she was well known in the community) he's probably telling the truth. Invite him out for coffee or a couple of slices. Remember, he may not be able to come till later and have to leave early. Tell him that you care and want to understand what he's going through and be supportive.
Listen carefully. If his story sounds similar to mine, he is probably telling the truth. I never had a real girlfriend in high school because of all this, and no girls would take the time to listen, no less believe what my mother, the kindly elementary teacher, was doing to manipulate my life.
Think twice about his story. Just because it might appear that his family are living the "American Dream", he might not. Think about what I have said. I hope it will help you to know the difference between someone reaching out and a line of b/s to string you on.
Good Luck :-)
2007-03-01 02:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop him like a rock.... If he was that into you he would not be able to not contact you. After 6 months you should be on his mind enough for him to get hold of you. If not then he has business somewhere else. Something that you are less important to. If he truely loves you then he will be back begging and promising to do it right the next time if there is a next time. If he just doesnt seem to care then maybe his problems will be to much for you too.. Id go find someone that really thought about me when they woke up in the morning or when they went to bed at night. If they have feelings they cannot wait to contact you again. But if you are underage then i have to say maybe his parents are really strict and stuff and maybe you should continue to just understand till your old enough to understand... Just remember if something is troubling yo then you must fix it... Make yourself happy first then others... If it feels wrong then it probably is..... Good luck hun!!! :)
2007-03-01 01:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by corpes_bride1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I don't think he is that into you. If he was he would call, he would text etc. I don't think you deserve to be treated this badly by him, you need someone who has the time and will make the effort to speak to you and text you. When he says he doesn'T have time etc, that is an excuse, that is not the truth as a text message would only take a couple of minutes max. I am sorry, I wish I could tell you another answer. Go and find a guy who will treat you nicely and pay you the attention you need and deserve :-)
2007-03-01 01:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by Leeza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may well have family problems, but that is not an excuse to lie and say he will call, then not do it.
They say they will call because it is a way to brush you off...Get you to leave them alone for the time being.
DON't CALL or TEXT him anymore!!!!
IF he really gives a crap, he will call.
Right now, you are making yourself just too convenient and do all the work in the "relationship".
2007-03-01 01:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes doing one of the following;
1 treating you mean to keep you keen (sad I know but for a good proportion of women it works.... otherwise they dont see the challenge)
2 Playing the field with you as the safe bet
3 he is a really crap communicator with a fear of attachments
Only you know him so only you can work out which is true. More to the point ask your self why do you put up with it. And what is it in your make up that allows him to treat you this way.
The hardest truth to realise is not a case of he does this to you but you by you actions/reaction to his behavoir let him get away with it. take it from me thats a hard one to take in and then even harder to act upon to stop history repeating its self
2007-03-01 01:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by happysurferuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.....I'm not sure...could be several things...he could be married...he could just be really busy... he could be just trying to get you into the sack.....maybe a combination of these things.....take a good look at what the relationship means to you, what you want from it and what he needs to do to continue the relationship...then tell him in straight terms what you want/need from him...then give him a little time to show that it is what he wants...if he doesn't follow through, find someone else.
2007-03-01 01:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just about having you there when he wants you. I'd hate to break it to you sweetie but he doesnt really need you there. You dont have to go off and hate him, just make sure he's not your only priority. Have other guys to be interseted about and he'll be there to cool things off with you. Because right now, he doesnt really care wether your there or not. So crush on him, like him, but have other guys to think about too^^..
2007-03-01 01:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki.[mmk]. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said."boy" he's not experienced enough to appreciate women. Its to take for granted something you never had time to see the necessity in. Cant live with'm cant love without'm .lol
2007-03-01 01:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by ROCKET 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just keeping you on the side, like a back up. He is either full of crap and playing you, or he has some serious commitment fears, or both.
I'd say you should forget about him.
2007-03-01 01:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by Dale D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be playing hard to get. Or maybe he is busy.
Did you ever stop to think that he might realy have a family problem????? Before being negative, get the facts first.
2007-03-01 01:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by matt_archbold2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋