i initiate... he accepts but does not return the pleasure? whats wrong with this picture?
2007-03-01 01:40:29 · 9 answers · asked by joyous 1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Azflavor, is this something he used to do but no longer does or has he always been like this? If he used to do it, then yes he may be seeing someone else. However, if he has never reciprocated, maybe he is worried that he won't please you, or he has some type of phobia, etc. I would ask him about it.
For me personally, there is nothing better than giving my lady pleasure...even better than receiving sometimes!
2007-03-01 01:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by Harry Taco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't neccesarily mean that there is someone else. Maybe he isn't comfortable returning the favor. Maybe he's just a selfish bastard. You can try asking him why he doesn't return. If I were you, I would just stop initiating and giving him pleasure. If he asks for it or asks why you aren't, tell him that it's your turn to recieve and that if he wants more, he has to give more. If he still refuses....leave him.
2007-03-01 09:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just mean that he is selfish or unresolved issued of anger which may, or may not be related to you that he is taking out on you. If you alway initiate and all he does is just lay there and enjoy it, you are setting a dangerous precident for the future. Don't initiate for awhile and see what happens.
2007-03-01 09:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that important to you don't initiate. Let him put in some work. It doesn't matter either way to me when it comes to my relationship. I love pleasing my man and I would never want to make him feel obligated to do the same to me BUT if I wanted him to put in the work - I'd stop the initiation portion if I were you. There's always the good ol' fashion lettin him know what you want. Good luck
2007-03-01 09:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not attracted to you. If he were, he would be having a hard time keeping his hands off of you. 99% of men are driven by sex, so if he's not trying to undress you, he's just not into you.
When you're choosing someone who you want to spend a lot of time with, even perhaps the rest of your life with, you generally try to choose someone who likes to do the same things you like to do, including, if not especially sex.
So ask yourself this.......is this the relationship you want to be in? Is this how you want to live the rest of your sex life? Believe in yourself. Believe that you can have a wonderful man who loves you AND is wildly attracted to you. Stop wasting your time with this guy and find someone who fits the bill.
2007-03-01 11:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by lil1_mg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your referring to oral, maybe he just doesn't like doing that. Believe it or not some don't. That doesn't truly mean there is someone else (although it is possible) I'd say bring it up sometime in a round-about way.
2007-03-01 09:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Krista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot is wrong with that picture. It doesn't necessarily mean there's someone else but you need to talk to him about that.
2007-03-01 09:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by happyblonde 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It coudl be respect to your womanhood. It is drummed into men that women don't want sex they feel obligated and so give it to their man. Men who respect women don't want to impose himself on a girl so he lets her initiate to make sure that it is really what she wants. After all.. it is a given that a guy wants it!
2007-03-01 09:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a greedy lover,, dump his azz or let him find you cheating on him to teach a lesson
2007-03-01 09:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by b4i_fku-r-u-18 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋