ive been wit my guy for 7 years (met in 9th grade) whats the best age to be married in
2007-03-01 01:27:39 · 31 answers · asked by love66677020 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ive been with my girl since i was 16, were both 22 and were gettin married in two years, its not about the age (but u have to be legal) but your financial security and support of one another. dont make a dumb decision, wait until your both ready.
2007-03-01 01:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony C 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've always been of the opinion that a person should never marry until after their 21st birthday, (personal experience, being legally allowed to drink can change a person's behavior.) I'm also not big on marrying your first serious or long term partner (also personal experience) When it comes right down to it, though, age is not the issue you need to consider. Dont get married because you think its something you're supposed to do, or because you've been with a person for a significant length of time and it seems like the next logical step, and dont get married because you feel 'passionate' about that person. a marriage is more like a business agreement where you each agree to take on certain responsibilities. (only you *really* like your business partner.) It doesnt matter what age you are, but you have to have the maturity to understand when to hold your ground or when to let something go....a good test of this is to find someone older than you, who knows both of you and ask them if they think you're ready....if you get a lot of negative reactions, as frustrating as it is, you're probably not ready. on the other hand, if people seem to be thrilled for you, great. (pre-marriage councelling is also a must, even if it's not faith-based, you can never have too much support!)
2007-03-01 01:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by ikaphant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 25
2007-03-01 12:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best time to get married is when you are mature enough to understand and appreciate what a marriage is about and be truly commited to making the marriage work. I have seen 18 year olds who were more mature about marriage than some 40 year olds I know...so it's not about age, it's about emotional and mental maturity. Unfortuantely, some people never reach that and jump in and out of marriages like a revolving door. They spend more time and effort on their wedding than their actual marriage and then blame everyone but themselves when the marriage falls apart.....
2007-03-01 01:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married straight out of high school (18) and had my first child 9 months later :) My husband and i have now been married almost 4 years and yeah it has been hard, BUT we are happy! So if you think you can handle living with him for the rest of your life, then any age that is legal is a good age to get married!
****As long as you are not in one of those "he beats me but i can take it" or "oh he wont do THAT after we are married" situations!-substitute "that" for any bad behavior****
2007-03-01 01:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter. What matters is if both people have the maturity to be in a committed LIFE relationship. Also, you and your partner need to sit down and discuss all the serious "what ifs". How many kids...or do you even want kids, where should we live....would you care if we moved far from all your family, etc etc etc....Also, what are your goals in life and will your partner support them....do want to go to college or go back to college? Would you like to run a marathon....WHATEVER your goals in life may be, once you are married what you do no longer affects just you, so these things need to be discussed before.
2007-03-01 01:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't consider age to be the motivating factor to enter into marriage. But I do believe that whenever a person is financially stable and mentallly mature enough to carry on the responsiblity to live as husband and wife and willing to start a family, that would be the ideal reason to get married. Not to forget that the prescence of love is essential as well.
2007-03-01 01:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
30
2007-03-01 01:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by professorc 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Mid to late 20's. You still have a lot of growing up to do. You'll be amazed at how your views will change once you really start to experience life. Things that were important when you're 17-18 are so different when you're in your mid to late 20's. You've got to see if you both grow up at the same pace and still want the same things.
2007-03-04 19:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure there is a right age that can be generalised across the board. everyone is going to have their own opinions based on their own life experiences and the experiences of those around them. you'll only know yourself when the best time is for you both because it will feel right and if that's now, then do it. if it doesn't feel right now, what's the harm in waiting a few more years
2007-03-01 01:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by flojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋