How do I deal with family members who think that you are lazy and don't want to find a job?

Question

I have been trying to find a job on and off for the last couple of years without much success as well as trying to hustle by walking dogs, cleaning apartments, etc. My family who has been worried that they would have to give my mom and I some money are now doing that and are angry as a result. When I tried to tell them that the job market is tight and I have been trying to find a job, they treat me as a liar. The last time that I was unemployed, they pressured me into finding a job, which I did , and was so angry at them that I took it out on employees at the job and was subsequently fired. I now have an injury to my leg in which I can't put it down completely and I wonder should I try to go on job interviews and I've no health insurance. I am in my mid 30's and I am tired of being treated like a baby or having to account for every job move to the family? I am feeling more suicidal by the day and I don't want to go to another job and going off and getting fired again. Help!!!!!

Answer 1

I have a cousin with a similar story. He's in his early to mid 40's and suffered a head injury and stroke about 8 years ago, and has had lingering problems with dizziness and migranes that have made it hard for him to work full time. He was formerly a banker. He has worked on and off in the time since the accident and has had long periods of employment or "underemployment" and much of his immediate family has lost patience and sympathy long ago. He went on disability and got his own apartment, and seems to have distanced himself from most of the family, I'm assuming to remove himself from their unwanted critisms and suggestions. He works when he can, and when he can't he does volunteer work. I'd see a doctor re depression, if you can- can you try to collect disability? You should keep an open mind to different career options obviously, but don't get involved in something that you know isn't a good fit.

Answer 2

You should sign up for some classes at a vocational school and learn a trade the will accomodate your leg injury. I will satisfy your family and you will feel much better about yourself for not only finding and keeping a job but you`ll have insurance that you need and your anger will eventually subside. Be sure to learn a trade that you enjoy! Best of luck to ya.

Answer 3

Sounds like your income level would allow you to apply for a grant to go to college...some grants even offer living expense money. you can help you mom out with the living expense money and train for a career at the same time. Here the most popular grant is called a pell grant, you can find information online about it and I think you can even apply online. The world is a hard place these day's, Hang in there and good luck building your future....

Answer 4

I would suggest stop looking for a job "on and off" as you said, and just keep looking and not stop until you find one.