Crazy question???How do you tell your other half that the way they are giving you "or*l" is not doing anything for you??Now keep in mind they "love" to pleasure you..but it is just and hasnt been working for me.Its his technique well how he does it..I mean i have and do very MUCH enjoy or*l.But he is very upset and takes it personal if i dont "get off" by him doing that,I've tried to talk to him and explain to slow down or relax or just do what comes naturally,so i am all with working with him.He says i'm holding back and telling him to stop hurts his feelings then he will actually not even want to follow up with sex which is what i want. Its a new relationship so i tell him we just have to get used to eachother..Any suggestions???
2007-03-01 01:21:44 · 5 answers · asked by ccrazeegyrl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a new relationship it is always hard because you are just learning how to communicate and you don't really know their hot buttons yet.What you might want to do is a little reverse psychology, ask him what he wants and let him lead you while you do your magic, then ask him to reciprocate by doing what you really want and then lead him. If he really wants you to "get off", then he would open up and listen to you. You are on the receiving end, the part of his body that he is using does not feel what you are feeling, so how can he know that it really works? He tests your reactions and that is why he thinks his "technique" is so great, if you have a true reaction to what you know works, then he will do that over and over again. Try to be as honest in your reactions as possible, this should not be a black mark on his ego but a way of becoming closer, you have to let him know that you do not think any less of him and his sexual prowess because you have to tell him how you like it, it is just because everyone is different, maybe someone in his past really liked it the way that he does it, you are a different person and you have different needs. Just let him know that no matter what, you really want to try new things and figure each other out along the way.
2007-03-01 01:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by edie t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-01 09:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried to guide him. Like if he gets a spot that feels good say right there. Or say right there. Apparently it doesn't work talking about i after sex but if you guide him you may get some enjoyment from it.
2007-03-01 09:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned from years of experience. And what I learned is when I am down there and I do something right my girl moans and grabs my hair and holds my head in that spot.....
so you may need to play more of the teacher role and guide him to your spots. And watch porn with him too. He will do on you what he sees in the movies!!!
Good lick! I mean good luck...LOL
2007-03-01 09:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to come out and straight tell them their tech. is wrong. You could approach it a little differently like, lets try something different this time, what about if we try something new, and if you are into watching or reading porn you could say I saw or read about this tech. what do you think about giving it a try. Whatever you do though let them think they are the ones making the decision to try something new.
2007-03-01 09:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋