My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and 1/2 yrs. He has an ex-wife and 3 children and he's 11 yrs older than me. We had problems @ first since this ALWAYS bothered me. About 2 mo. ago I began dating a friend from college who I am very attracted 2 and have a great time w/. He is my age w/ no children.I broke up w/ my boyfriend 4 3 weeks since I felt so guilty.Then I got the feeling from the new guy that he only wanted 2 be friends so I went 2 lunch w/ my ex and told him we could get back 2gether.(after he asked) The next day I told the new guy we should just be friends since that is what HE wanted.I told him I dont just want 2 "date someone" since Im getting older and have already done all that.He told me I had him all wrong and I misunderstood him and hes upset cuz he "thought we were starting something". So now Im back 2 square 1 Im with my ex and seeing this guy.I really like this guy?? But Im scared to break up w/my bfriend in fear of the new relationship not working.
2007-03-01 00:40:06 · 17 answers · asked by emkmusic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay so do you just need to be in a relationship or something? It sounds like you are afraid to be alone, and don't know what you want. I mean If you want to be with this new guy why not be with him? Don't break up with your boyfriend just because of the other guy. If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, then you shouldn't be together regardless of whether the new guy wants a relationship or not. Find out what you want, and make a decision. Don't be afraid to be alone. I guarantee you'll be happier single, then in an unfullfilling relationship.
2007-03-01 01:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing for you to do is to figure out what YOU want. Running between these two is going to cause you a lot of unnecessary emotional stress. Because, if you leave your boyfriend for your friend you may find that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. And if you choose to stay with your boyfriend simply because your friend is confusing you, you will always wonder "what if." So, your first step - I think - should be spending some alone time figuring out what kind of man you want and deciding if either of them fit. Then making a decision. And you may even find that neither of them are what you want. If that's the case, start anew with a fresh perspective on your future love life. Good luck!!!
2007-03-01 00:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go with what your heart tells you. You don't want to look back and say what if. First of all ....... if you really cared about your boyfriend that has the ex wife and kids then you would not even care about this other guy. The other guy is who you have feelings for and you should run with it. If it don't work out then move on with your life you don't have to settle just because your getting older and don't want to be alone.There are lots of fish in the sea. Stop the fear and enjoy your life make it what you want.
2007-03-01 00:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are just scared to be without a guy. You really need some time with just YOU to figure out what YOU need.
New guy just might not be as needy as the older bf. The reason the older bf has someone so young is because he probably needs to make himself feel younger...AND to piss off the ex.
Heck- tell em both that you aren't married to either of them, and you are gonna see them both until you make up your mind!
You will regret it later!!!
2007-03-01 00:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys can be confusing sometimes,well.. most of the time. Maybe this guy really wanted to have a relationhip with you if hes upset when you broke up with him, life is a risk, if you really like the guy then go for it, why waste your time on your bf if you think that hes life is complicated. Follow your heart!
2007-03-01 00:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by konfuzed_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me the relationship with this older guy hasn't been working for a while. You should have your space away from the both of them to think things through so that you can make a sound decision. I honestly think you would be better off with the college guy, but like I said, take some "me-time" to think it through.
2007-03-01 00:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by loveangel22 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, dump the married guy. It's not fair to you or to his wife (whom he is never going to leave, by the way) ---even if things don't work out with the new one, there are plenty of other SINGLE fish in the sea. Don't be afraid to be alone for a while, it's much better than being in a relationship that is bad for you.
2007-03-01 00:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of the old guy and date the new one . Don't just stick with the old one for fear of being alone, that's not a good basis fore a relationship.
If things don't work out with the new guy there are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-03-01 00:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to do what is best for you and by reading your statement it sounds like your new guy is better for you. It's a lot nicer dealing with someone without all that baggage. Take new bf with you to tell old bf if you're afraid he'll be violent.
2007-03-01 00:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋