I have lived in the UK all my life. My darling is Korean and grew up in Korea. He is in the UK temporarily and will eventually return to his home country. We have discussed about what will happen then. He has asked me if I would come with him. I told him that I was unsure as I am not Korean, do not speak the language and am not too familiar with the culture. He has said that he could emigrate to the UK (even though he'd rather live in Korea) but I think this might be unfair on him as his English is not proficient. However, I am worried that if I live in Korea I would be unable to find work as I do not speak the language at all. My darling says that I could stay at home but then he wants to live with his extended family and I wouldn't be able to communicate with them. If I moved to Korea do you reckon I will face prejudice?
2007-03-01 00:36:32 · 12 answers · asked by Cassidy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I was Chinese or Japanese do you think I will adapt to Korea easily?
2007-03-01 01:34:06 · update #1
go to hong kong, COMPROMISE
2007-03-01 00:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by rykkers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you'll face some prejudice, and will feel a bit overwhelmed initially. His family may not welcome you with open arms at first. You need to discuss this openly with your darling ahead of time. Plan on taking a class to learn the language once you're there. It will be much easier to pick up the language when you're in Korea. Ask your BF to teach you some of the basics so you can communicate with his family to some extent.
Before you go there, start reading as many books as you can on Korea, mainly it's history and culture. You should be almost 100% sure that you want to live there before making a big change like this. Good luck to both of you.
2007-03-01 00:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you make a decision:
1. Take Korean lessons, so you can at least communicate.
2. Go for a visit ---don't move permanently not knowing if you can handle it
3. If you decide to try, buy an open return ticket before you leave, this way you will never feel trapped.
Think about it this way, lets say you go right now and some natural disaster happens....you might not be able to communicate with anyone, wouldn't have the money to get yourself home, and might end up as a slave.....think it over.
2007-03-01 00:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An old boss of mine used to be a linguist for the marines. He said Korean is the most difficult language to learn in the WHOLE WORLD. I'm also not sure about the laws in Korea. I knew someone who moved to Okanawa and she said there a spouse has no rights at all.
He's offered to stay. I'm saying take him up on it.
2007-03-01 00:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its sounding like you wonna go, but the lingual and cultural stuff is holding you back. True?
Anyway, we have a polish where I work who cleans for us. Her english is broken and limited, but we help her along and she's comfortable here. Maybe you could get to grips with the basics of the language. Culture is all around us, with the people you see, meet, work with, socialise with. So you are involving yourself in diffferent cultures all the time, and often without knowing it. I'm sure his family would be understanding and help you too. You'll be accepted, I'm sure of it. Why not try it for a year and re-asses the situation then? You may want to stay.....
2007-03-01 01:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fears about life in Korea are well founded. Try an extended break over there without a commitment to stay and make your mind up as a result of how you actually feel then, rather of what you think you might feel later.
2007-03-01 00:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mike L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really won't know till you give it a try. You must have a smattering of the language if you live together. If not get your darling to help you to get to grips with the basic words such as 'I want to get the hell out of here quick before I get my throat cut'.
Not being a cynic but have you to think this through carefully before you make any life changes descisions.
All the VERY best of good fortune me thinks you are very brave.
2007-03-01 00:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We face prejudice no matter where we are, who has a house, a more stable job, who's family to you better get along with, about stay in one place for some time, then go to the other for a period, see which one works for you two the best
2007-03-01 00:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get married wouldn't that make him a british citizen? so you could stay. Otherwise move to korea if u really love him. Good luck.
2007-03-01 00:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to Hawaii. It's not quite halfway, but it's a good compromise. Also, there are plenty of Koreans and plenty of English speakers in Hawaii. It's a good compromise.
2007-03-01 00:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by Amish Rebel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No,if you have a strong back and can work in the fields for 12 hrs a day and never bathe and like to eat cat, you will fit in nicely.
2007-03-01 00:41:08 · answer #11 · answered by dcam47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋