My bf is the sweetest guy in the world. I love him so much, I just don't want to get married right. I want to make sure we can live together first. I know that you don't really know a person until you have lived with them. He's has always lived on his own and I'm still at home with the parents. My parents are saying that I'm making a huge mistake. I have a back up plan if things don't go right though. If things do go right we are going to get married. My parents are wanting to talk to me tonight about this decision I have made. My mom was crying this morning when I talked to her. I feel bad but I want to do this. My parents still treat me like I'm 12. I'm not. I'm responsible. I pay for my truck, insurance and gas to put in it. I don't ask my parents for anything. I know they are going to try to talk me out of it. But I'm 21 I gotta get out on my own sometime.
Advice would be greatly apprecaited.
My bf doesn't expect me to much into the apt either. I told him I would only be able
2007-03-01 00:33:38 · 8 answers · asked by angel2005_2001 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to only put in about 300 a month on the apt. I feel bad becuase I won't be able to put in half of everything, but he said not to worry. He would pay it, it wouldn't cost him more for me to live there then it would for him to live there by himself.
2007-03-01 00:36:43 · update #1
This is your life and you can't please your parents all the time. If you feel you are doing the right thing then do it. You are right.... you don't really know someone until you live with them. I made the mistake of marrying someone before I lived with them and it was a disaster and ended in a divorce. I think if you feel you are ready to do this then do it. What do you have to lose? Your parents need to support you and if they don't oh well this is your life not theirs. You have to get out sometime and to have some help for your first time moving out is good.
2007-03-01 00:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you better wait for a bit and may be go on holidays and find some other way to live with your bf for a bit to know him more. Living together is not a solution of finding how he is. May be you need more time in your relationship. You can't tell if you can live a happy life by just earning your trucks gas and insurance money. There are much more stuff than it looks like once in practical life.
Treat yourself a good life for a bit and just be patient. Hope it will make you feel better.
2007-03-01 00:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day both you and your boyfriend want to live together,,if that thought makes you happy go for it,,who knows what is round the corner and if you live just for others and their approval you may not get anywhere in life,,so what if it all fails you will have learned some form of Independence,,learned the value of money,,the value of compromise where a live-in partner is concerned,,all these things you will need anyway.you will move out sooner or later and your parents are just worried about you but if you act like an adult they will treat you as one,,show them you have what it takes to live away from home and that you take it very seriously,,,,,it wont all be a bed of roses and sometimes it will be tough,,you will likely argue,,you will likely have money worries,,you will likely wonder if you and he did the right thing BUT all these things are normal and not failures,,they are learning curves and much needed ones if you are to survive out there in the great unknown.
2007-03-01 00:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right; they are looking out for you.
All over this site, there are ALWAYS tearful stories from girls who have moved in with guys, later to find out the guy doesn't want to get married at all, or keeps putting it off, or get engaged and won't ever set a wedding date. That's the problem. Most guys get way too comfortable when a girl moves in, and then don't want to or need to marry them.
So if you think you really do want to get married, don't move in with him. Moving in with him won't let you see if "things do go right" as you say - the only way you can do that is with marriage and a commitment.
Think about this. You are really young yet. As you say, you have to get out on your own sometime, but ON YOUR OWN means moving out by yourself, to experience the real world.
2007-03-01 01:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it will take a while for you're parents to adjust to that change. I still think that they are in shock, parents still like to go with the old ways-don't move in until you're married-I personally go with that. But as for you if you love your bf then move in with him ok and love cant be stopped so just wait for the shock to die down ok?
2007-03-01 00:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in life marrige decsion is a big decision and every one has some bad and good qualities that u are not seeing now but a marrige run on both sacrifises and compatibility if this portion is ok u can marry her else do what parents say parents never be wrong fo child
2007-03-01 00:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by dainesh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you! your starting your own life,and are going to do fine, be smart keep your credit good and have fun your on your way!
2007-03-01 00:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be lucky because when i told my parents they said there were not giving me a blessing
2007-03-01 01:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋