how can you help your girlfriend?
the situation:
the girl has an ex and she broke up with him because she is so wasted from him because the guy didn't cherish the girl's love for him? now i comforted her and told her that i love her and now were together but our problem is, she want to go back to him because the guy is begging for her but she's not sure if she will be happy to him if she give him a chance, but I told to her that i will give to her all of the things she want to have from his ex. Is it right?
2007-03-01 00:17:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey dude...I recently came out of a long-term relationship and the guy who I was with did not appreciate me as much as he should have. However, despite the fact that he didn't treat me the way I deserved to be treated, my feelings for him are still very strong. During our relationship we developed a very strong bond - we became friends, lovers, soul mates. I totally understand what your girl is feeling right now...it's VERY hard to get over someone with whom you shared a lot. My advice to you is to tell her that you are aware of her feelings for her ex, and assure her that no matter what you'll be there for her. Take it slow, foremost, be her friend; comfort her and be non-invasive. Eventually she'll come around, however, if she does go for the other dude she'll miss out on the real deal, which will be too bad for her.
Take care
2007-03-01 00:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it is her choice if she goes back to him...explain to her that this ex treated her like crap and if that if all she thinks she is worth and deserves then maybe she isnt the right girl for you after all because you would never ever want someone you were with the accept being anything less than cherished. In the end only she can make the choice...but at least this will give her something to think about. good Luck
2007-03-01 01:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say why y'all broke up. even however, your relationship along with her can on no account advance until she wakes the hell up and comprehend that each and every person she is to the different (married guy) is a F*CK chum. you besides might did not say if the married guy became her youngster's father. So provide her a call you or the lifeless end relationship with a married guy, then make her stick by potential of the alternative. or in basic terms discover yet another woman in view which you sound like the rebound guy, she doing to you what he's doing to her. even however, if the intercourse is sweet and you do not want a deeper relationship .... close up and shop stroking. I in basic terms examine lots of the girls folk's feedback. do not Ever marry a woman who won't be able to make up her strategies who she needs to be with. in case you do you will have a cheating spouse particularly of a cheating lady buddy.
2016-10-17 00:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl is on rebound. Please. You might love her but she isn't realy in love with you let her go back. It is the best. You don't want to be second best.
Take it from a girl. Girls that are afraid to be alone will use a back up when things go wrong with the guy she is with so that she is never alone. It sound sad i know but it is true. She is useing you as back up hoping that you will be that one guy that will stick around when things go bad, but you are realy nothing more then a replacement for no one being in her life.
Good luck and I feel for any guy that is treated as some girls little back up.
2007-03-01 00:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have they been going out? people tend to remember the good times and forget just how bad the bad times were, For ex. When i broke my leg i rememberbit it hurt but not that bad, but if your actually going through it you misarrible. If your the rebound guy their might be any hope for you, but don't pressureut her, let her know how you feel, I'm sure when they first started going out he said all the right things but as time goes on you forget how important people are to you, He might of just needed a wake up call for him to realise what he lost, and lastly Do Not go pick a fight with him,
2007-03-01 00:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by sdexcalibur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no matter what she decides you will support her. You will always love her and be her friend. Tell her that you will wait for her until she can make up her mind. Tell her even if she goes back to him you would love it if yall could still be friends and if it doesn't work out she can come back to you... I know this sounds a little clingy but my boyfriend told me that when I had just got out of a relationship and it made me choose him even though I loved the other... Just let her breath and support her. She can only make the decision her-self... u can't do it for her. I hope this helps...
2007-03-01 00:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Inquisitive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she's not going to be able to give herself to you whole heartly because she's still torn over this other guy. She needs to have time to be single and get her thoughts and feelings sorted out. I suggest that you'll take some time apart and if its ment for you'll to be she'll come back to you when the time is right.
2007-03-01 00:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a dumb beeotch that likes to be treated badly,and believe me, there are many. You don't have a chance. these girls will always go back to the bad guy even if he beats her regularly. You are better off without this crap in your life, and there's nothing worse than loving somone who doesn't appreciate your feelings for them.
2007-03-01 00:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are chasing the remains of a broken relationship with this girl,,she isnt the person you or she thinks she is just yet and as she still harbours feelings for this other man it would be in your best interests to let her go,,she hasnt promised you anything but she has made it clear she still wants him and not you,,move on and save yourself all the hurt
2007-03-01 00:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time, don't pressure her by forcing her to make a decision, she'll only end up choosing the ex cos she loved him first! give her your full support and attention!!!
2007-03-01 00:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by *grid_iron gurl* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋