Hey, it is a new month and I have decided to let go fo the past..
one little problem..My ex and I broke up 5 months ago. We were
together 4 years, some good some bad. He has a substance problem that I thought i could change..yeah silly me. Anyway,
he did alot of calling during the break up...I respected the break up
and left him alone..During the last couple of weeks we actually
talked like friends..he was calling almost every night for 2 weeks.
I reached out, asked if he wanted to get together and talk...he
had hinted around he wanted to..well he ignored my msg i left..
but still called back never brining it up...i don't want to do this anymore..but i want to get the monkey off my back. I want to
forgive him, apologize for things I said and be free..Do i call
him and do this? How do i go about his..i want to be free of him
and be happy again..I can't let him hurt me anymore...
2007-03-01 00:13:18 · 8 answers · asked by wicktjw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No don't call him...Just start talking to someone else...If you are surrounding your self around postive people that will make you happy the lease time you will have to think about him. Then soon right be4 you notice he wont even be on your mind....
2007-03-01 00:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by XOXOXO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years of memories will be hard to forget over time. The easiest way to do that is to replace it with new memories. In order for that to take place is to let yourself go of him. If he has issues of substance abuse, that will take him in and out of the calls he is making and may not realize fully of his actions. The best thing you should do is to be there for him temporarily as he call for now. I wouldn't meet up with him, no. That will only stir up the emotions and memories of the past. Keeping your distance is the best way to get this monkey off your back, as you say.
When both of you are on the phone and in good spirits and knowing that he is in good comprehension, then let him know how you feel of what you wish to get off your mind. Explain in a calm manner and forgive and forget. Let him know you are trying to start off on a new foot in life and you may not always be around to pick up the phone. Just indicate to him sometimes the memories are painful and you need to move on to eliminate those pains in your heart.
There is no doubt that there will be new pains from this by both of you. But it will be temporary until a new smile enters your heart. When those smiles start healing the pains, the memories will flood in to replace the past. It took me a lil while after a 7yr relationship but it 'can' be replaced. Be patient and have faith in yourself. Best of luck =)
2007-03-01 00:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a regulation referred to as the regulation of reason and result. It applies to all Mankind, theists and atheists or maybe to animals. it extremely is the regulation i ought to apply here to choose your case. You go through pangs of judgment of right and incorrect at present for the section you shared interior the irrelevant habit to have allowed and to have wanted the abuse to proceed. at present you're reaping what you sowed by way of your experience sorry approximately. it is your punishment for the certainty you had on the time that the habit grow to be irrelevant yet you favored to no longer care as long as you happy your thoughts. you haven't any longer something left to be forgiven. Forgiveness is sought in basic terms whilst one seeks to avert punishment. you have esoterically been punished on your section interior the act. All you like now's to attempt to forget. otherwise, a healing section decrease than hypnosis to rehearse the act may well be salutary.
2016-11-26 21:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight up and tell him how you feel mate its the only way hes gonna get the message and if he calls you or texts u bak yknw what 2 do delete his no# from your ph dont answer his calls or txt and move on. The moment you tell him how you feel is your first step of letting him go now finish it off my deleting his no# and stop answering his ph calls n texts
good luck gurl ;)
take it easy
2007-03-01 00:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do just that. Don't agree to meet him to say it. The phone will do just fine. Yes, you do need to be free of him. Right now you won't be able to be friends and probably not for a long time because of your history, but you'll be better off.
2007-03-01 00:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should phone him and let him know how u feel.
2007-03-01 00:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by WHATEVER!!` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep in mind to take care of yourself
2007-03-01 00:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by jedi1medic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep a distance and be a friend.
2007-03-01 00:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋