what would you do?

Question

i have decided to forgive my boyfriend, we were going out for 5 months then he cheated on me, he was then seeing that girl for over a year, he has only just been in touch and now i forgave him, he said he made a big mistake and he was scared but hes not anymore and likes to talk about our future, we are going to have a long distants relationship but are seeing each other every fortnight, i do trust him, just wondering if you all would trust him?

Answer 1

no he's lives long distants if he's did it before what makes u think that he will not do it again. He's going to say to he's self why not cheat again since ur not there

Answer 2

a fortnight? sounds a bit too long to be seeing eachother. Based on my experiences, long distance relationships (LDR) never really work out unless you see each other at least every weekend. The fact that you caught him cheating makes it even worse because once a guy cheats, its like he cant go back. The option will always be there and he will be more inclined to do so since he already has in the past and now he is not around you for you to pick up on it.

I would not trust him, and i think that he probably has something still going on with that other girl, maybe not something huge though. But now you run the risk of him startin it up again with someone else.

Answer 3

It's possible he's being honest with you and realized he made a mistake and wants to make it right. It's also possible the other girl kicked him to the curb and he's just falling back for what he knows.

Given that this would be a long distance relationship, I would recommend being cautious. If you feel you can trust him and are willing to try, then go for it, but be very clear that you expect him to be faithful and not see other women.

The biggest thing is to follow your heart, but be prepared for the possibility of being hurt again by this guy.

Answer 4

i don't believe the phrase "once a cheater always a cheater" as my boyfriend did the dirt on me but i forgave him and we're still together 2 years on and has never done it again. He could be telling the truth that it was a big mistake and he's truly sorry you wont know until you take that chance
Good luck i hope it works out (",)
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Answer 5

This has to be completely up to you. You know him, what he's like and how much trust you have in him. Just be careful to watch his actions in the future. You know what to look for since he's done it to you before. If you feel he is truly sorry and means it when he says he won't do it again, then go for it. Only you know this guys true personality. Good luck.

Answer 6

Well I think everyone deserves a second chance, after all we are only human and fallible, so if you are happy to give him a second chance then good luck to you. He's obviously had time to think about what he's done and how he hurt you, and he's talking about your future together which is promising.
I think that you did the right thing. Good luck, let's hope that your relationship this time round is better for you both.

Answer 7

I wouldn't trust him. I might forgive him, but it would take a lot longer than a fortnight for him to get my complete trust back...

But apparently I have trust problems. *shrugs*

Answer 8

Erm.. NO! He cheated and now ur having a long distance relationship.. well good luck sweetie, but if it was me id wave bye bye and go looking for someone closer to home and put this down to experience.

Answer 9

LOL sister you need a prayer. He is only going to cheat on you again and this time he isn't going to get caught b/c you don't live near him. So tell him to cheat on someone else this time b/c you deserve better than this piece of shiit.

Answer 10

Personally I wouldn't trust him, especially with a long distance relationship, but its up to you in the end.