I want to get back with my ex. It is a difficult one to know what to do. She broke up with me because her feelings changed. This happened at exactly the same time she was depressed and admitted it but blamed us.
I could see when she was down and that was exactly the time when she took stuff out on me/us. She admitted that she gets down and pushes people she loves away.
I think I am going to give her another week and will then give her a call to say hi. That will be a month since we broke up & last had contact.
I am going to ring her & suggest we catch up. When we meet I am not going to mention anything negative e.g. depression or our break-up but just see how she is.
I will keep it short as well, no more than a couple of hours and then ring her a few days after and suggest we do something again. Funnily enough, she said when we broke up that she would like to see me "when I'm ready" so it's probably a case of taking things slowly!!?
Any tips?
2007-02-28 22:55:12 · 14 answers · asked by bepositive1976 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do whatever your heart tells you to do.
2007-02-28 22:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by PWD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I have been in a very similar situation. I would suggest that you go ahead and ring her as planned, but after you meet up, leave it at that. She knows how to get ahold of you. Dont be like me, always making the first move. Just meet with her, have a good time (I agree, dont focus on the negative), just enjoy her company. After you get back home, just stay busy and dont call her. Good luck, I hope everything works out for the best!
2007-03-01 07:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her tell her how you feel, but don't keep chasing after her. She will know how to contact you if she needs to talk.
You also need to really think about if you want to get back into the relationship and make sure its for the right reason and not just cos you are on your own and missing her. Depression is not something to be taken lightly, but if she is going to push you away every time she is depressed and break up with you, you need to think if this is the life you want to lead.
2007-03-01 07:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shemay not want to meet you anyway so be prepared for rejection. Not everyone can get over depression some of us just have to learn how to live with it. I have had it for over20 years and it is not much fun. Some people aredepressed with what is going on around them if this is the case then you may well be disappointed. Sorry to suggest this.
2007-03-01 07:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give it a try, but usually when a woman falls out of love with a man I'm afraid to say it never is the same again. There is something missing in the relationship at that point.
2007-03-01 07:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by cassidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've thought about it alot and you seem to know what your doing. Like you said, dont bring anything up from the past and just talk to eachother as mates and catch up what you've been doing over the past month. You will see by her reactions how she feels about you. Just give it time and take things slow and things will work out for the best.
2007-03-01 07:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can give it another try and ask her to catch up with you! But listen man, if she says no. Then move on!
Why would someone want to be with someone that doesnt love or care for them anymore? She broke up with you for a reason, and sometimes you just need to face the truth and move on.
2007-03-01 07:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to "receive" you need to "let go" first. I don't know if this philosophical approach makes sense to you, but try to accept things the way they develop. It all has a reason, and if you both are meant to be together, it will happen. If it does not happen, don't despair, it's for a reason, even if you can't see that reason for now: It's not given to us to look around the next corner, but if you look back you often recognise why things happened.
2007-03-01 07:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Eugene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. If that results in you and her not back together, move on. The fact that she has gone a month without talking to you does not bode well. My advice is to not dwell though. If she turns you down dont keep trying. You will only hurt yourself over and over.
2007-03-01 07:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her space and reassure her you there for her wen shes ready to talk.
its very good of you and you obviously care a lot about her if your still wanting to be with her so just dont rush things and take it a day at a time.
i believe in fate and if its meant to be it will be!
good luck hun
2007-03-01 07:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you heart tells you.....but dont try to hard you may push her away...IF SHE LOVES YOU SHE WILL COME BACK TO YOU
2007-03-01 07:03:37 · answer #11 · answered by smita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋