My best friend is a single mom with a very difficult to deal with 4 year old little boy. He has behavior problems and doesn't listen to her commands. She is very stressed out from dealing with him because the father is not in the picture, her family is 8 hours away and she is raising him all alone.
She works at a job dealing with special needs teenagers that can become physically violent at any moment. She says that the stresses of her job and then having to come home late in the evenings and deal with her son are starting to effect her health.
She says her memory is starting to go and her hair is starting to fall out. She plans on going to the doctor and asking for a prescription for nerve pills to deal with her problems. Are drugs really the solution here?
I am concerned about her but am not really able to help much because she lives in Maryland and I am way up in Michigan. Should she really be taking nerve pills to deal with her everyday life?
2007-02-28 22:50:52 · 7 answers · asked by joyce 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Drugs work, but they're not for everyone, and they're never the whole solution. She basically needs support. She is suffering as a result of multiple social stresses which need to be dealt with, otherwise the pills will be of no use.
Also, it depends which "nerve pills" she is using, and what the doctor's aims in treating her are - for example, he may be prescribing short term sedation to help with difficult patches, or longer term antidepressants to help lift her mood. Regardless, her relationship with a doctor needs to be maintained, as it provides a source of relief for her. Don't tell her not to take the pills, because that will make her distrust her doctor and remove further support, but ask her to check with the doctor what they're supposed to do, so that she uses them in the right way and doesn't end up abusing them.
She needs support wherever she can get it - from her doctor, from her employer, from her family, and from you.
2007-02-28 23:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Testaco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on her physical situation and only her doctor or therapist can determine that. I have been on Clonazepam for years, but I'll tell you, they are all addictive and if she can work it out on her own, it's for the best because you just have to keep going up and up on the mg. As for her 4 year old, she needs to try different parenting strategies. A four year old is not intentionally disobeying - this is obviously a pattern that has formed for his short life. She can overcome that with a little bit of correction on his part in the form of discipline (time out) and rewards for only good behavior. As for her job, perhaps she should choose a different profession if dealing with special needs children is making her life so horrible. Hope this helps.
2007-03-01 06:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by scott41301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she wants to continue on working with special need teens, and her own son that has learning disable problems, yes, she needs something to calm down her nerves. I really does not need to be a pill, but the pills will work, she can take like gensing root, in the root form , and chew on it, it might taste funny in the beginning, but after she gets use to it, she would find that nothing could really bother her, or stress her out like she is now. The Chinise and Asians us it, i like Korean
Gensing myself, the sun luck comes out with a gensing tea, that is good tasting but helps to calm your nerves down. The root would proably be better tthough to start with. Just do not have her get the amiacan gensing, you need to use one from a different country.
also she has the opinion to change jobs, and have more time with her 4 year old child, and to get closer to him, and maybe he would not act out as badly as he does.
2007-03-01 07:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're addictive, but only when you take them regularly and you don't have to use them everyday. You can take them 2 or 3 times a week with virtually no risk of getting addicted. I've taken Xanax to sleep at night a couple times a week for months and haven't gotten addicted, and I used to take Valium when I was stressed out and didn't get addicted to that either.
2007-03-01 11:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
'nerve pills'? do you mean adivan? she needs to deal with her son's issues of acting out.... which can also be not enough attention so he lashes out to get it.... or just normal 4 year old behavior. if she drugs herself up, the kids gonna get worse without discipline. If her job stresses her out so much, maybe its time for a career change?
2007-03-01 07:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Jello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only her dr. can really answer this but I think nerve pills shoud be taken on a short term basis such as dealing with a death,etc. They can become habit-forming.
2007-03-01 07:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by DOT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if her job is the reason for the stress change jobs. if its her kid, tear his tail up.
2007-03-01 07:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by duc602 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋