but the mother has just told me the our kid wants to take up ballet. What the f**k??? A lad doing ballet? I told her to not take him or I'll go ballistic. How do you think I can stop him from making such a fool of himself?
2007-02-28 22:26:45 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
raise him yourself.
2007-02-28 22:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Debt Free! 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Firstly, Is it about what you want of your child or just what your child wants? Are you worried about him being Homosexual? Professional foot ballers take ballet themselves to better thier balance and coordination. It might not be a bad thing for him.
Secondly, Are you worried about him making a fool of himself or you? Look I'm the father of an 8 year old boy and I completely get the whole wanting him to be macho thing. I've been through and still am going through it. But the thing is to make sure you let the boy know that you care about what he wants. He'll grow up insecure and NOT manly if he's constantly wondering if he's gonna satisfy D-A-D. As a father you should teach him to do what he wants and be confident in who he is.
"I dont really see the KID that much"---> On this note it sounds as though your not close to the kid and dont really care that much. Only about yourself. If you want to be an active part in this childs life then learn first how to be a true father. If this child is a burden to you then perhaps you should back off and relinquish your parental rights. Obviously you feel he was a mistake that shouldnt have happened and didnt want to happen. If thats not the case then my sincerest apologies. Its just how you sound.
Again is it about you or the child?
2007-03-01 01:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you might as well say "no seed of mine is doing ballet". What do you care, you don't even really see him.
If this is because of some macho thing...did you know that a lot of NFL players actually take ballet to help with their swift moves on the field? And most people think you can't get more macho than the NFL...
If anyone is making a fool of themselves, it's you, trying to control a "kid" that you don't even know or come across as loving.
Sad.
2007-02-28 23:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by kim.san 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont even see him that much so you dont really have a say in what he does
let your son do what he wants and let him be what he wants to be
you didnt say how old he is?
if hes like under 7 then dont worry its all part of growing up
and him learning stuff
you might find that he just goes a few times then give up
but the more you tell him he cant go the more he will want to go
so just let him try it.
you sound like you have a problem with him going because your scared it will make him gay
if he is gay then thats just the way he was made
you dont choose to be gay
and just get the idea out your head and if he does turn out to be gay then grow up and get in to the 21st centrery and just be there 4 him and support him
but i think your worrying over nothing
my son is three and like dressing up with his sister, and i let him
and he dressed up for a bit now he's in to football and boys stuff
i dont make a big deal out of things.
people have this thing about boys pushing pushchairs when there little, but bloke push pushchairs round when they have kids
so whats the problem
just let ya son do what he feels comfatable doing
and let him live is life how he wants.
just hope he doesnt end up taking drugs or become a alcholic or become a crimanal.
thats something you want to be worrying about not the fact that he want to do ballet.
look at ballet as another way of keeping fit
then when he is old enough maybe you can get involved and spend some quality time with him going down the gym and taking him football, stuff father and son do together
and you say he will be making a fool out of him self.
but i bet deep down you think that if anyone finds out your son goes to ballet you'll be the one thats embarrest not your son
2007-02-28 23:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by crystaluk662 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, quit being homaphobic! Ballet is not bad for boys. It's a great sport to be involved in. It promotes strength and slef worth and lots of other things. It's also a good foundation for other sports that I'm sure you play. Besides he'll probably grow out of it anyway. I'm sure its just a phase. Or maybe he'll grow up and be a dancer. If you don't see him that much why are you so worried about? It seems to me that you are not worried about the kid but how it will make you look. I think it would make you a strong man if you allow your child to be who he is follow his hopes and dreams. If you make a big deal about it then he will want to do it even more. Grow up!
2007-03-01 01:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rumster, There's really nothing wrong with your son taking ballet. If he want to try ballet like him do it with your support. It's a lot better than him in a gang and hurting people or worse. Let him go to his ballet classes. Who knows he may not like it after he starts. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-02-28 22:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty i dont see why you should go ballistic fair enough it is a boy youre talking about but boys go through phases no different to girls being tomboys etc let him do ballet he may find he does not like it as much as he thinks he does and on the other hand if he does enjoy it it does not mean he is or will be gay.... it sounds to me like that is what you are thinking if you dont see him that much then what is the problem let him do it you shouldnt tell the child he cant do it because its a girls thing let him decide his sexual future without being told what is wrong or right
2007-02-28 22:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by sherice r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be an idiot... let the kid take up ballet... he needs to try different things and discover his own identity, you already said you don't see your son often, so then what do you care, you've obviously NOT taken an active role in his up bringing... if you want him to get into "manly" activities why don't you be a man and start spending time with your son.
2007-02-28 22:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you start taking an active role in your childs life then mebbe your opinions will have some value.. until then they dont. Hes a child, he will more than likely get fed up after a few weeks and want to try something else, but in all honesty its your reputation and being laughed at you're worried about not him. Either grow up and take more responsibility for your son, or leave her to bring him up as she sees best. But all this macho generalising is silly.
2007-02-28 22:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't seem to have given much input into the lads life so objecting to him learning ballet is a bit lame to be honest.
He might not enjoy it and not go back. Or he might love it, go pro anf make loads of money and forget all about his loser father who couldn't be bothered.
2007-03-01 00:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go and get yourself sterilised to stop anything like this happening in the future.
You should be thankful your child is not turning out like you. I suggest you have even less contact with him than you do already as he is clearly a little lad who is strong enough to do what he wants to do regardless of what anyone else thinks and you sound narrow minded, ill educated and just generally not that bright.
2007-02-28 22:44:14 · answer #11 · answered by chrissie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋