is it so much to ask for a man who doesn't cheat on you! if theres anyone out there feel free to get in touch!
2007-02-28 22:18:28 · 26 answers · asked by kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I consider myself honest and I don't live on mars... I'm already married though... :P
Although many of my (men) friends don't exactly share my point of view, when I get committed, I stick to it. If you ask me though, it depends allot on 3 factors (within many others - relationships are a complex "problem", that none the less can be made simple):
1- Personality,
2- Education (not scholarship alone, but the kind of education you get when you grow up);
3- Being happy... (Not in a strict sense)
You may ask why I point out those 3, and I can give you some reasons (these are not, by far, all):
1 - Personality - some of us stay teenagers for a long time, add some good looks to that and lots of easy dates and a man feels good alone until the 30s. Also, some people don’t have it in them to stay committed; their personality is not oriented to sharing a long term relationship with its ups and downs;
2 - Education - the way you grow up and your personal experiences influence allot the way you think and might give you a set of values and priorities completely different from other people;
3 - Being happy... most women don't realise that when a man really wants go get committed he must feel confident in the relationship, but he also must be happy with it. The sense that man just want sex or a whore at home is not true (when a man really wants commitment), in fact, this kind of man usually hate shallow women (I wont deny it though, we men need allot more the sexual part than women usually do and for being happy we must have our sexual lust satisfied). As I said though, just the sex isn’t everything, you need to have balance, need to be able to share experiences and understand each other, to speak in an open way about everything (but avoid speaking to much, as we hate it when it’s too much).
As for looking for the right person for a commitment, I must point out that you really need to look at the right places. Man who just want one night stands or short relationships are frequently found in certain places, on the other hand, singles who are ready for a commitment can be found on those places but also on other places where the one night standers usually don't spend so much time...
As for keeping a relationship stable... Learn to share things and understanding. Learn to understand his moods but also the best way to share your mood (it’s important for us to understand you also). Don't neglect the sexual part though, for as I said, we have a greater need for it then you do.
3 end notes:
1 - Never force a man to commitment - that is the first step to make it not work;
2 - Men usually are less confident in a commitment than woman are;
3 - Most man who cheat are looking outside the relationship for something that they don't have in it, and its not necessarily just the sex (or a sexual fantasy) but could also be love or just plain tenderness or understanding...
2007-02-28 22:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all live on Mars!!! Ha ha
There are a few - you just have to look in the right place. Don't meet them at certain places like a dingy pub where its known to be sleazy. Try a coffee place, gym, up town bar. Where you think is right. The right one will come along eventually.
2007-03-01 06:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jen (G cup UK) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are. It's just that in our days if someone is really honest he's considered naive (to put is softly) and he's getting into trouble.
Honesty for a large amount of people is not a virtue anymore unfortunately.. it's a defect.
2007-03-01 06:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by ruko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way their all bum's...my bloke int cheated...i hope lol but he has lied to me a few times ...i think their should be a law if ur married or been in a long term relationship n u cheat on ur wife/partner u get ur dick chopped off lol :D
2007-03-01 06:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we are out here but we are hard to find. We may not be that good looking that you girls ignore us. But we are honest and reliable and work hard. That is why you do not notice us. Stop going for the flash good looking guys. They are unreliable and will just move from one lady to the next.until their looks have gone.
2007-03-01 06:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If being married 4 -- 41 years is any criteria and still have a good time I think I could qualify what say you?
2007-03-01 10:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by the bee man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive never cheated in my life and theres no way i would start i met my lovely fiancee 3 years ago and will marry her next year there are some of us out there who are generally decent guys and im sure one day youl meet him
2007-03-01 07:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by j m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are always good men and bad men and also good wemen and bad women.
Never lose hope to find Mr. right for you.
Wish you good luck :)
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2007-03-01 06:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Waleed M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find one ask if he has an older brother. Good luck in your search. I am like you it isnt a lot to ask just to be with someone who wants to treat you right. Hope you find what you are looking for.
2007-03-04 19:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by janeybest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they just dont look like the brad pitts and johnny depps that alot of people look for now in days if you read the above ones you will understand we are out there we just dont look as good as the above stated men
2007-03-01 06:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by atreyu852006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋