when I was a little girl, up to 8 or 9 years old, at home I was sent to cornertime bare butt ; terrible !
2007-02-28 22:13:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I do send my kids to time out but to their rooms (no tv, video games, etc) They go for one minute of their age and come out when they hear the kitchen buzzer.
2007-03-04 00:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by *G* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that 1 minute for every year of age is a good amount of time (for example, 9 years old, 9 minutes....10 years old, 10 minutes, and so on). Remember when you were a kid, 10 minutes seemed like an hour.....so, even though 9 minutes might not seem like much to you, it will seem like much longer to the child, (for example, 5 minutes is a long time to a 5-year old, and 15 minutes is a long time for a 15-year-old, and so on)...long enough to think about what they did, anyway.
I also used the 1-2-3 rule with my kids. If I asked them to do something and they ignored me, I would start counting. Okay, 1.....if they still don't do it after a few moments, 2.....and they know that if I have to reach 3 that they are getting a time-out. It worked really, really well, but you have to be consistent. Good luck.
2007-03-01 03:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by PangiBear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! I know that alot of people send their kids to time out, but I am very much against it.
Whatever the kid did, the punishment should fit the crime and teach them something about why what they did was wrong.
Standing alone in a corner has very little to do with anything--especially for a very young child. They aren't thinking over why what they did was wrong--they are thinking 'how much time is left' , 'I'm bored', etc.
If they made a mess, make them clean it up (even if it takes longer than what it would take to clean it yourself) or at least make them help you clean it up. If they did something mean to someone have them write an apology letter or do a chore for that person.
The point is to always let them know calmly why what they did was wrong, and do your best to help them fix it.
This form of punishment takes more time and patience but it is way better for both the kids and the parents in the long run.
2007-03-01 04:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what they did. If It was really bad, they get a corner and they better not turn around until I say (usually about 10 minutes) (being disrespectful) if it something more minor they can sit, but they must sit and no TV until time is up (again about 10 minutes)(having to tell them multiple times to do a chore and they still haven't done it - when time out is over they must get it done within a certain amount of time or go to the corner). They are 5 and 7, so far so good.
If it's really, really bad, no TV for the day or games or computer time and it progresses from there. (like hitting each other)
Luckily I have pretty good kids and I don't have to do time outs too much.
2007-03-01 02:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use the time-out method with my kids when they are misbehaving. I have them sit there for the same amount of minutes to their age. For example, if the child is 5yrs old they will sit for 5 minutes...if the child is 2yrs old they sit for 2 minutes. If the child is younger than a year old, then I usually have them sit until they get antsy and then talk to them about why they had to sit in time-out.
I think sending them to the corner bare butt is extreme and doesn't help in teaching them their lesson anyway. There's no need to make them be bare butt.
2007-02-28 22:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your partents send you bare but 4? My kids go but not bare butt thats pretty bad, depends on age they say 2=2mins, 4=4min etc if there a bit older 9-up wards give them a thinking chair where they have to go sit there 4 10mins and think about what they have done wrong and why they where punshied 4.
2007-02-28 22:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do send my kids to time out. The other day I put my 3 yr old in time out and started making dinner. Well he was so quite and I was so busy I forgot I put him there. (terrible, I know) Anyway, about 40 mins later I realized and went in and he was still sitting there. I felt so bad but he didn't even care.
2007-03-03 23:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Vicki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents had a paddle that said the cute little deer with the bare behind, it was horrible, they used it when I was young, but after that it was fine. I put my son is time out for 2 mins, when he turns 3 then 3 mins and so on.
2007-03-01 01:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a "naughty step" and our 4 year old is sent to sit there when he misbehaves for 4 minutes. When he gets up he has to give an apology: Look the person in they eye, say "I'm sorry for...do you accept my apology?" and if does it nicely he is free to go play. I think it teaches him the importance of following directions and apologizing/owning up to your mistakes. I also use this technique with the kids in my in-home daycare, it's been very effective.
2007-03-01 02:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on the severity of what he has done my sone goes to his room or if we are at a friends house he will go to the corner for a certain amount of time usually about 10 minutes (hes 4)
but otherwise he has his dvd player taken out of his room as he cant watch normal tv because we have no aerial in there and then he stays in his room till he stops throwing a tantrum or appologises
2007-03-01 10:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by sherice r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋