hi my gf got back with me last week, and i was so happy. and now her nans ill and her step dad and mother are on the verge of splitting. what do i do to help my gf ? i start getting upset and arguing cos my gf cant find to see me and she says she finds it hard to find to time to meet meat the me cos of the problems at home! what can i do to support my gf i like her to bits and i dont wanna ever lose her again. also i feel as if tho she maybe taking me for a ride because she is supposed to go out with her work mates on friday night and no time for me ? what should i do, if she goes with her work mates on friday ? should i qustion her ? please help each time i ring her i end up arguing with her saying why she not meet me or owt. please help on what i could do
2007-02-28 22:03:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she doesn't need or want you. End it. You don't need to keep panting after her if she is holding you at arm's distance.
2007-02-28 22:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by glimpseofthesky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pity your girlfriend since she has so many divided loyalties and pressures on her time. She feels pressure to support her parents, pressure to be part of her work group and also pressure to see you ... unfortunately she seems to have put you bottom of the list. That may be a backhanded compliment - she might think that you are the most supportive of the lot and won't give her grief as much as the others. With regard to work, it's often difficult to work with a crowd of people but not socialise with them - if you don't socialise you can often be ostracised and get bullied at work, as girls together can be a vicious group if one of you isn't part of the gang. So your gf may just be trying to make her work situation easier.
The problem is that if you try to pin her down on time, she will get stressed and arguments ensue. So I would give her all the time in the world with her parents - they HAVE to be a priority at this difficult time. But ask her to make room, say two evenings a week, to see you or a Sunday afternoon, something like that. Don't forbid her to see her work colleagues as that won't do either of you any good. Offer to see her at a time that she's seeing her parents, and ask if you can help for example getting her gran's medicines or doing some minor chores at her gran's house, gardening, etc. I know it seems that the onus is on you but unfortunately you have to accept that, in this complicated scenario and with the pressures on your girlfriend, you currently come last in the queue. Sorry, but that's how it is.
2007-02-28 23:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes having a real hard time atm in her home life. There is a lot for her to cope with, she doesnt need you demanding her time and arguing with her. What she does need is your support and understanding. Message her, tell her u love her and are there for her if she needs you, and mean it!
Dont pressure her and create more problems for her to deal with. You are meant to be there and care for her feelings, so show it! Give her a little space and some time to cope with what is happening at home.
As for going out.. she needs her other friends too, but mebbe you could suggest joining them sometimes. Get to know her work mates and spend time together at the same time.
2007-02-28 22:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by kitiara2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand her being caught up in family to a degree but when your world feels like it is crashing around you that is when you should want to be closest to your signifinant other for comfort and support and not going out and partying with friends.i would really think about this one as the 2 of you may still really care about each other but may not be good together as a couple anymore.tell her that you are there for her and leave it at that and see where it goes from there.lots of luck
2007-02-28 22:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine urself in her situation.. am sure u wouldn't have liked it if she always was breathing down ur neck for this or that..
I have been in a similiar position and believe me she needs her space. Maybe too embrassed to tell u what is going on.
Act supportive, send her cute sms telling her that u r thinking about her and that u miss her...
Good luck.
2007-02-28 22:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by loves_nature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her go out with one of her workmates
2007-02-28 22:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah ditch her - relationships should be fun and happy and honest
2007-02-28 22:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋