i thought i would try to explain wot will happen the day before but i have been advised to just take him to the hospital and let them get on with it so he wont worry. im not sure he would understand anyway, can you help wot should i do ?
2007-02-28 21:53:53 · 19 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
swimmer,
My son was about three when he had his out.
Everything was explained to him. There was no worry, no stress.
I wouldn't want things like that kept from ME...
2007-02-28 21:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd explain it to him very simply, tell him that he's got to go into hospital so the doctors can make his throat so it's not sore so often(I presume that's why he's having it done in the first place), and that he'll have some special sleeping medicine and when he wakes up he'll be able to have lots and lots of soft foods, like jelly and ice-cream. If you tell him that Mummy will be there when he wakes up and that he can take teddy with him(which was the case a few years ago at least) then you've pretty much covered all the bases.
I don't think just taking him into hospital with no explanation is such a good idea-as clearly neither do you-and the doctors would probably give him a simple explanation beforehand anyway, so it's better coming from you.
He'll probably just accept it, as three year olds tend to do, but at least if he has got any questions he'll be able to ask you in advance.
Good luck!
2007-03-01 06:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him, other wise, the next time he goes to hospital he will connect it with walk in, made to lie down, stuck with a needle and wake up with some pain. Don't create a fear where there doesn't need to be one. Maybe just tell him that he is going in to have his tonsils taken out. Explain that they are the things that are always giving him a sore throat and once they come out he will get better. Tell him it might be a bit sore after but with lots of holiday rest and lovely cool ice cream and mummy love, he will soon be back to kindy or whatever pursuit is his favourite thing to do.
2007-03-01 06:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by shes_apples 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to explain things to him simply, otherwise he'll be frightened to death when u get him to hospital and they start doing things to him. See if u can get a book from the library (or the hospital may lend u one), that u can read with your child about going into hospital. Explain things to him in a way he'll understand,try and make it sound like an adventure. A small present for when he wakes up too would be a good idea,so he knows he'll get something at the end!
2007-03-01 06:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by pumping iron 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I first took my 3 year old to the dentist, I told him his teeth were sick and the tooth doctor needed to look at them. He was calm and quiet and opened his mouth for the doc. Tell your son the same thing. Tell him his throat is sick, and he needs to see the throat doctor so the doctor can make them better. And tell him when the doctor is finished, he can have some ice cream for being such a good boy. 3 year old understand a heck of a lot more than us parents give them credit for.
2007-03-01 06:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 3 he is old enough to understand what's going on. I'd rather tell him rather than spring it on him - how would you like someone to take you somewhere then spring something like that on you? Not much.
Just tell him he's going to see some nice doctors who are going to make his throat better. Tell him that you'll be there right by his side and that you'll buy him a nice treat when he gets out. Perhaps you could do a role play on his teddy with you as the doctor so he's more prepared for it.
2007-03-01 06:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thx well i would wish to let u know tonsils in someones body helps to fight with diseases so if u decided to let them be taken out u might be in a risk with ur baby infact there r some medicene one is given to prevent them and which stablelize the tonsils otherwise if u did already nothing can be solved
2007-03-01 06:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by titi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my child i would explain to them what was going to happen, i would tell them in advance in case they wanted to ask questions about the operation and it would give them time to understand. i certaintly would not just take them to hospital and have the operation done without for warning them, i think something like that would leave a lasting nasty memory for the child and would lead to problems later on when ever you had to leave the child with someone.
2007-03-01 05:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Raine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would try and explain where he is going at least but at 3 yrs old he probably won't understand what is going to happen! Good Luck
2007-03-01 05:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by sarah25779 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If children are not told anything they may be upset or confused. The best way is to be as open and honest as you can with your children, to explain clearly and simply but gently, your understanding of the situation.
2007-03-01 06:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by sherry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure that your son would understand. I would try to explain to him as best you can but assure him that there is nothing to worry about. Just let him know that mommy and/or daddy will be there for him.
2007-03-01 05:58:56 · answer #11 · answered by ♥TTC #2♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋