hi my gf got back with me last week, and i was so happy. and now her nans ill and her step dad and mother are on the verge of splitting. what do i do to help my gf ? i start getting upset and arguing cos my gf cant find to see me and she says she finds it hard to find to time to meet meat the me cos of the problems at home! what can i do to support my gf i like her to bits and i dont wanna ever lose her again. also i feel as if tho she maybe taking me for a ride because she has time to go out with her work mates on friday night and no time for me ? what should i do ? should i qustion her ? please help each time i ring her i end up arguing with her saying why she not meet me or owt. please help on what i could do
2007-02-28 21:47:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give her same time.
!!!!
life is difficult.
Tell her that you are always next to her if she needs any help but, give her same space and time.
2007-02-28 21:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is a virtue and I sure know that you must be wishing if you were a little more patience. But dear, sometimes you dont want to spend virtues on the wrong people.
Now first of all, you need to calm down. She should be the one running to you to tell you that she has probs at home and wants your love and comfort. If she is not turning to you, you need to gain her trust. She might be already upset with whats going on at home. So dont add to her agony by arguing. How would you like it if you had a stiff problem and your best person is arguing with you.
On the other hand, she went with her friends on fri night ? Well, may be she is sick of arguing with you and wanted a break or may be she just didnt want much of you around.
Boy, everyone , including people in a relationship should always have time to themselves. Now dont fall over her too much, she will try to repel. So boy be nice to her, give her some space and just watch her turn to you.
Send her flowers, or buy her something thoughtful (not something expensive). Next time talk to her control yourself. Talk to her for two minutes only. After that just tell her that you will call her back and a friend is waiting on you. Give her a little less attention and she will wonder whats happening and will get back to you. Argue over anything, BUT NOT saying that she is not giving you attention.
2007-03-01 05:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by vittrash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with her all you can do is support her, offer to go to visit her Nan with her for moral support, or do something nice for her as a surprise to cheer her up.
Personally I do not think it sounds like a good relationship, I would tell her that clearly she has a lot on her plate right now and you understand that her family commitments come first, so you would like to give her chance to focus on that without worrying about you. Tell her that you would happily stay mates and if she needs a shoulder you are there and if she decides in the future when things have settled down that she still has feelings for you then you can talk about it, but right now you do not think it is fair to continue a relationship because her head is in the wrong place.
This way you are not burning bridges you are free to get on with your own life, and if she is genuinely just screwed up with everything thing else that is going on you can still move forward when she gets herself sorted.
Good luck, hope it all works out for the best xx
2007-03-01 06:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by tigger_pooh_on_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi when her step parents creating problem with her u have to understand that she has a problem of going out with a guy. And she dont want to get into the trouble, if any one see her with a guy. Thats why she is going out with other friends whch will not be a problem.
If you are gud enough try to make some tricks and enjoy with her on the same outing. And dont ever irritate her in phone because she is already in trouble. Ask her whether this is problem, you can convince with your tricks and enjoy a ride with her.
Enjoy Man!
2007-03-01 05:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space, try not to be so needy, if she's genuine then she'll make time for you when she is able to do so.
If she doesn't then I'm afraid you will just have to move on.
2007-03-01 05:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes making excuses not to see you, She probs didnt want to properly get back with you
2007-03-01 05:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by rubymurray248 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋