I am on my own with my Granddaughter and feel very isolated I would like to find activities that would include her s it is hard to get baby sitters . She is 11 and has a lot of interest drama, swimming. football and she is in a choir. she is alright but I feel I don't have a life.Any suggestions
2007-02-28 21:27:19 · 11 answers · asked by Mar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I live in the tayside area in Scotland
2007-03-01 03:45:40 · update #1
Hi, please can you tell us what area you live in? We may be able to help you fnd some local groups. Thanks.
2007-02-28 23:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by monkienutz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel quite envious of you! I have a lovely son of 18 but would have liked more children (it just didn't happen)
Recently his girlfriend became pregnant and while they were deciding whether to keep the baby, I felt 100 per cent certain that if they needed me to I would happily bring up the child.
They decided not to go ahead with the pregnancy as they are so young, and of course that's their decision, and I am OK with it. But I am very much looking forward to a day when I might have grandchildren.
I know it's different having total responsibility 24/7 for a child, especially second time around and as you get older. I do send you sympathetic wishes.
But try to think positive - it can be a wonderful experience bringing up a child (as well as all the hard work and responsibility)
If you lived near me (I am in SE London UK) I would love to meet up with you and "borrow" your grandchild now and then! So I guess there are probably lots of other would be grandmothers (and people who haven't any children at all) who would gladly "babysit" - but I know it can be difficult to locate them.
It can be isolating being a single parent of any age - but maybe there are ways of meeting new people while she is occupied with hobbies, or at school. Maybe join a club or day class learning something creative that you've always wanted to do? (If you want to meet a hunky grandad, you could choose something like car maintenance which has lots more men than women...)
It can be hard to break the ice, but just get talking to other parents and grandparents. Be a good listener to start with, you will be very popular! Don't give up your search to find like minded people and develop good, two-way relationships with them. If you trust them, you might be able to offer them something (say cooking them a meal?) in return for some babysitting.
Good luck, I hope these answers help.
2007-03-01 05:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you are a great parent/grandparent. It can be hard at times I am sure. I know one thing that i always did with my grandma was play cards with her and her friends. They play for nickles and dimes so it didnt cost much and it was a good time. You could also invite your friends over and have her help you with dinner and entertaining. Have her sing a song for your friends. You could try the YMCA. I dont know where you are from but there are other places to take kids where they are watched and get to exercise and play with other kids. They can learn alot from others that have the same interests. I hope some of this might help you. It makes me smile to know there are still people in this world that care about family.
2007-03-01 05:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Hello!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a single Grandparent too. you should put your Grandchild first . even though you feel like you don't have a life just think how life would be with out your Love for her. 11 years old yes they need to stay active or they will wind up with the wrong crowd. do you realise how many Grandparents are raising there Grandchildren? allot, and we thought we were done after our kids grew up. There are some support groups out there for Grandparents raising there Grandchildren. you can go on line or look through you newspaper they have listings of different support groups. Hang in there and pat yourself on the back you deserve it. GRANDMOTHERS ARE THE BEST.
2007-03-01 06:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by JEANNIE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will not reach a grandparent stage if you have no life,
it just you are getting idle lately you dont have any focus or direction in where are you going or what to do
i think you have to start getting out of that chair and starting to socialise again with people or group of people with your own age
life is fun if you know where to look try to look around for any social group that holds your iinterest
i dont know how old are you or if you are a male or female
the activity of your granddaughter will be different than you for sure because she got her own age group
if she go swimming go swimming by yourself and try to meet people if she go in a choire try to meet people walk in the park,play bingo play bowling or just go to the library
on the weekend you and your daughter can watch movies
or go in shopping mall and meet people on sunday go to the church with your daughter and meet people
remember if there is a will there is a way
goodluck
2007-03-01 06:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine how you feel as an 11 years old must be very demanding, but think what a great job you are doing and how much she must love you, you will never find anything else to do more rewarding than what you are doing for your grandaughter. I know time is passing you by but just think in another five years you will be able to do what you want. Well done to you, I do envy you I would love my grandaughter to live with me.
2007-03-01 16:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a quite young gran. Dancing is very popular now, you could maybe both go to that and you would mix with people there. I ce skating also, you would'nt have to do it, just sit and meet other folk doing the same thing as you
2007-03-01 05:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to the beach with her, take her to places where she can be with friends and you can socialize with other people that you like being around.
get out to the mall do some shopping, see a movie, or ask her what kind of things she would enjoy doing that you like as well.
make a chart for the week of things you can do that both of you enjoy and make sure its even.=]
2007-03-01 05:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by *B.S.S.F.P* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her what you want to do? Maybe she has some good ideas that she might like you to help with. Do you know any good activities? If so, you could then introduce her to them, she will feel closer to you as you are sharing your personal lifestyle with her.
Good luck!
2007-03-01 05:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by matiplant 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to get time to yourself is let her stay at friend's houses more often while you go out and have some you time!
2007-03-01 05:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
take her to the nation histroy museum! its free to get it. and u can spend the whole day there! its fun 4 all ages!
2007-03-01 05:33:59 · answer #11 · answered by Janey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋