I am quite confused about the pants down spanking metioned by all parents here, pls advise.?

Question

I read many passages about the pants down spanking here and see that I works for many families.

I was spanked in the same way as a child and I am now almost 25. I believe that it works for me at last resort. I have been spanked in this way for less than 10 times.

My mum would pull down my pants to spank when I was really bad and in serious situation as a punishment. Notice, it's whole pants and underwear down. Keep the frontal nudity not only on the bottom.

Once I was spanked in this way, I will try my best to behave well and my mum did not spank without any reasons

Therefore, I have some questions here:
1.The whole pant and panties down also to make frontal nudity or just bare the bottom?
2.For every spanking, pant and panties need to pulled down?
3.You pull down or order your kids to pull down themselves?(I was asked to pull down once)
4.Did you ask their feeling about the spanking after that?If yes, how did they answer?

Please advise. Thanks a lot.

Answer 1

I don't believe in pants down spanking. It's done soley to hurt more and humiliate the child. If must give a swat, it should be a quick one, not hard enough to cause redness and certainly not on a bared bottom.

Answer 2

If you are going to spank, for some kids just the FACT of being spanked (like, 3 or 4 smacks) can convey the message very effectively -- even on the seat of the trousers.

For other kids, especially older ones, the spanking needs to be REALLY felt. The "target area" being bare can mean it is felt more.

I don't like either way, but they both convey the "necessary" message.

IMO, there is NO need for deliberately increasing the embarrassment or humiliation by "frontal nudity" or total nudity, etc. Yeah, a kid might get yanked out of a bathtub and spanked as he/she is. That is one thing. But to have to strip for a spanking, that is weird.

Mostly, spankings should become seldom by 10 years of age or sooner and rare by the teen years ... and usually girls should be spanked by moms and guys by dads. It sure ain't easy baring the butt for a spanking, but it is better than having trouser and boxers yanked down.

Remember, it is the BUTT that is going to be spanked; it is the BUTT and ONLY the butt that needs to be bared. That is embarrassing enough, but as the heat increases who is thinking much about the embarrassment anyway?

Answer 3

When I was younger if I misbehaved my mom would take me to her bedroom. She would ask me to remove my pants and then she would pull me across her lap and then pull my underwear down and spank me with her hand.

I can't pinpoint the age exactly but it was probably around eleven when my mom started to use a belt or a kitchen jug cord on a clothed backside. Although a couple of times I really misbehaved and I got it on a bare backside.

Answer 4

I am shocked and saddened that some people still think it is ok. I just do not get how they can think it can be ok. Do you think that inflicting pain and instilling fear is the way to treat a human being? How the hell do you learn to tap into your own morality?
I want my kids to make their chioces based on what they think and how they feel, you know developing a sense of right and wrong. If you want to be a part of evolution let your kids learn natural consequencs not imposed punishment.
Ask this question to a bunch of kids...Why should you not run a stop sign if you are in a hurry? Some kids will say...because you might get a ticket, other kids will say "so nobody gets hurt."
Fear of punishment breeds generations of sheep. A strong sense of humanity comes from introspection and experiences of so many kinds. Every situation has it's unique consequences to learn from and enrich us as individuals.
It is never ok to hit and that is that.
JD

Answer 5

Well as a child was spanked on my bare butt. I also think its a last resort.

Answer 6

I think u are putting to much into the nudity part!! Its starting to sound more sexual than punishment the way u are speaking of it.

Answer 7

Honestly I think spanking in ineffective. Taking a toy away or a privallige works well.Time outs work also. I dont know how humiliating and degrading your child can be beneficial to the child or to your relationship with the child. Alot of people use the "Well my parents spanked me look how well I turned out. "excuse but if they turned out so well they probaly wouldn't be getting violent with their child in order to teach them.JMO.

Answer 8

my parents never spanked me and my grandmother did. i would not mind them but i did mind her, she didn't spank me for no reason, for example when i was prolly 7 maybe 6 she came over to my dads house (my mother left when i was 4) and was trying to get us to clean our room she was yelling and i started to cry my dad told me to go out side and get fresh air (hyperventilating) so i step out side i decided to go for a walk i went down the ally then down the block and before i knew it i was lost i walked around untill i figured out how to get home but before i could get there my grandmother found me pulled my pants and panties below my but and spanked the crap out of me. they thought i had run away but i had gotten lost i hated her so much and i swore sh was a witch! but now that im older and have a son i would do the same thing to him because rather i was lost or not i souldnt have went down the street with out an adult. i was gone for a few ours before she found me so i know they were going nuts and no longer have hard feeling but i do belive a child should be spanked not HIT a spank on the but panys on down it doesnt matter the child understands what ever they did not to do it again, and they truly do respect the parent more ex. when there teens! i never listined to my father growing up

Answer 9

pants down spanking is NEVER ok