Help please?

Question

I've asked so many questions on here but I love to hear others views. Me and my ex of 7 years broke up and he moved 2000 miles away..Well, he moved before we broke up..I know there isn't another woman. I am pregnant with his child and we are very young...22 & 23. We had our wedding planned before the baby. Dr. said I would never be able to have kids..my ex wanted one and I ended up getting pregnant. We wasn't trying because of what the Dr. told me. He was very excited while I was kind of depressed because I wanted to be married and have my degree. Now, I wish he comes back and I know alot of people thinks that is stupid. We had a pretty good relationship, His father walked out on him as a baby. He tells me he misses me and loves me but picks stupid fights..Does distance really make the heart grow fonder?? I told him last night we shouldn't talk until we clear our heads..Has this every happened to anyone?

We was planning on moving there before we broke up..We already had our wedding mostly planned. I don't know if he is scared. I tell him how I feel but he is closing up to me. He agreed tonight that We shouldn't talk for a bit because he feels like it would be good for "us"...which I agree.

Answer 1

You're not all that young. My husband and I married when I was 20 and he was 22 and we have been together 13 years. Our first child was born when I was 21 and we have since had two more children. We've had our ups and downs but we've always dealt with each problem in a way to keep our marriage strong. It is no use going into a marriage if you aren't completely committed to each other. Life is difficult enough, both of you need to be willing to support each other and be there no matter what happens in your lives. And that means both of you. Without the two of you being willing to work on your relationship it will always be unequal and never be a real partnership. Over the years I have learnt some of the most important ingredients in a marriage are learning to compromise. And by that I do not mean one person always giving in. True compromise it coming to a decision you both can be happy with and working on the problem until you achieve that aim. And communication. Without good communication you will quickly falter and be uncertain as to where each of you stand in your relationship or even know in what direction it is heading. Figure out exactly what you want, where you want to be and if this relationship is exactly what you want. Have your ex think this through as well and then after a day or two discuss it. But warn him that there will be a discussion, some men need to psyche themselves up to a discussion as they can find it rather daunting to open up emotionally.

Answer 2

distance doesn't make the heart grow fonder. It just clouds the memory of the bad times while holds on to the good times. If you want to make a serious go of the relationship one of you needs to move and get into counciling with the focus being not to see if things will work out, but to work them out. If you start something out half heartedly and saying maybe it could work there is no way that it can.

Answer 3

hi,

dont get upset since you r pregnant. This is common nowadays. Discuss with your parents or relations or a well wisher to take the decision with ur ex. This will solve your problem. As per ur matter, third person entry is a must for your future so that he should not run away again after some months.

Answer 4

If you love him you'll make it work i'm 23 with a 8 month old it's hard, but it won't stop you from getting your degree it will push you harder because your doing it not just for your self but your baby 2 i think you'll do well and get married and have a healthly baby

Answer 5

Sounds like it could really work if you weren't so far apart.