I've asked so many questions on here but I love to hear others views. Me and my ex of 7 years broke up and he moved 2000 miles away..Well, he moved before we broke up..I know there isn't another woman. I am pregnant with his child and we are very young...22 & 23. We had our wedding planned before the baby. Dr. said I would never be able to have kids..my ex wanted one and I ended up getting pregnant. We wasn't trying because of what the Dr. told me. He was very excited while I was kind of depressed because I wanted to be married and have my degree. Now, I wish he comes back and I know alot of people thinks that is stupid. We had a pretty good relationship, His father walked out on him as a baby. He tells me he misses me and loves me but picks stupid fights..Does distance really make the heart grow fonder?? I told him last night we shouldn't talk until we clear our heads..Has this every happened to anyone?
2007-02-28 19:19:58 · 7 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We was planning on moving there before we broke up..We already had our wedding mostly planned. I don't know if he is scared. I tell him how I feel but he is closing up to me. He agreed tonight that We shouldn't talk for a bit because he feels like it would be good for "us"...which I agree.
2007-02-28 19:23:35 · update #1
Jacky, I'm a few credits from my degree honey and I will have a job again as soon as I get off of maternity leave. I know I will support my baby. That isn't a issue with me. I KNOW I will provide for him..:)
2007-02-28 19:29:16 · update #2
Thanks Daft, He won't move closer because he has no family here..he had just moved here because of me and I would never get back with him because we have a child..We do love each other, I just think he has lost his flipping mind..I think he is picking fights over the phone because he is frustrated. We argued before but never out of control...Just every now and then
2007-02-28 19:31:48 · update #3
You are pregnant, and you will soon have this baby. So now you have to figure out a way for him to be in his kid's life. He'll either have to move back to be closer, or he'll have to just send the child support check through the mail. Or he can give up all legal rights to this child and then he won't have to take any responibility at all.
But, if he decides to be in this child's life, what will happen between you two?
Do you really think you will be able to tolerate him picking fights and arguing all the time? Is that a good environment to raise a child in?
Will he move back to be closer to the child?
Will he give up all legal rights?
How do you feel about this? You are pregnant and completely alone. And there is the possibility that you might have to raise this child completely *alone*. How does this make you feel, hunny?
Good Luck with the new baby, and don't do anything without completely thinking it through. Don't get back with this guy just because you are pregnant by him. If you get back together it needs to be because you love each other and are actually getting along.
Cheers and *hugs*
2007-02-28 19:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon - lets see - U - Boy friend - U pregnant _ b/friend 2000 miles away - U broke up >>>>>>
WHY DID YOU BREAK UP HON ?
this is the main question you need to ask yourself .
it seems the way U have mentioned in your question is that YOUR BOYFRIEND >> is >> AWARE THAT YOU ARE PREGNANT >>> AND THAT HE IS THE FATHER OF THE CHILD ??????????????
because you mentioned that HE WAS EXCITED AND U WERE DEPRESSED ?
His father walked out on him when he was a baby >>>> so
hopefully He does not think that it was the RIGHT thing his father did ? and He must do the same ???
Hon , being to-gether with this man who is aware of your situation of being pregnant yet has not suggested to marry you
- or plan to be there for the child ??? a little too late hon for YOU
to think of this - THERE IS A CHILD ON THE WAY AND YOU NEED TO TAKE MORE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THAT CHILD NO MATTER WHAT YOUR B/FRIEND MAY OR MAY NOT DECIDE ABT YOU . Forcing your boyfriend to be a dad to his child and a husband to you will never work , and will only totally DESTROY the childs life
RIGHT NOW THE CHILD IS WHAT YOU MUST BE THINKING ABT HON not the father of the baby or your feelings for the father of the baby - THE BABY DOES NOT HAVE TO BE DEPRIVED OF LOVE AND CARE FOR WHAT THE 2 of you
can or cannot work out to-gether
HAVE A STRAIGHT TALK WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND - ASK HIM IF HE WANTS TO BE PART OF HIS CHILD , HAVE A STRAIGHT TALK WITH YOURSELF - ASK YOURSELF IF YOU WANT THE FATHER OF THE BABY TO BE IN THE BABYS LIFE AND YOURS - AND DO NOT BE A PART OF EACH OTHER ONLY BECAUSE YOU GOT PREGNANT
BE A PART OF EACH OTHER IF YOU LOVE EACH OTHER
>>>>>TRULY LOVE EACH OTHER >>>>>>>
GOD BLESS YOU / YOUR BOYFRIEND AND ABOVE ALL THE BABY THAT IS ON THE WAY .>>>>>>>>>>
2007-02-28 19:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy needs to grow up! Many men want to run away when there's a baby involved, because we're very immature compared to women - gradually, hopefully he will learn to accept the situation, but I'm afraid he really is typical of a lot of young men and old come to that - just don't go off with someone else and then have another kid by that person, because then things get really complicated - just give him time, he'll probably realise he's stuck on this earth like everybody else and his kid is not going to disappear!
2007-02-28 19:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are young...but, not that young...I think that he is pretty immature..and doesn't know what he wants...however...if you are having his kids...you need to talk to him seriously....and it may or may not work....just know that you may get him back..and then you might not....good luck...and ask for parents support(yours)...because you just don't know what his might be thinking..okay? Take good care of you,and that baby on the way!
Also, if there is a planned parenthood...look into those..they are VERY helpful..also go and see a doctor as well!!!
2007-02-28 19:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rivka 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes stay away from each other for a year or two then get back together, learn some things on your own for a while. Just remember all the new guy's you meet will be exiting but eventually things can go sour with them to over time.
2007-02-28 19:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear friend, Dr. has told that u would not have kid, right. but it is not true, u go for another doctor and trust on God, u dont be depressed, u think positive, now a days, doctors says no, but there is many other ways like ayurveda, yogas, natural therapy etc. so u get ur solution from other ways.
2007-02-28 19:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by mak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. this never happened to me and never will. so what re u gonna do with his baby at the age of 20 smth? without degree and job and i presume money and without marriage? i think u have much more to worry your little head about
2007-02-28 19:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋