I am in a relation with this girl from last 6 months or more, we have two side of the story, good part is the love n care, she cares and loves me a lot, she keep calling me and ask if I had food or not e.t.c. we fight a lot, come back to normal after few minutes, whenever she is away she calls n tell me that she is missing me and wantd to be with me, i mean jus the perfect love story. The other part is she has a friend, a very good friend now he is abroad, they are really good friend from last 2 years, he helped her a lot in her ups and down, but that guy doesnt like me much, even she sometime hides things from me related to him, i traced a chat conversation of them found that he abused me but she doesnt even askd him the reason, they exhcnage miss u everyday, they even exchange I love u one day too.
2007-02-28 18:40:23 · 6 answers · asked by p_t_r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I asked her she said he doesnt understand her being near to me, and she doesnt want to loose any of us. I love her but I am confused, I can understand she can have friends but she cant ignore me for a friend of her? she keeps on hiding things from me about her friends. I jus cant get this thing out of my head, n keep thinking aobut it all the time. I seems to have lost trust in her, how can one trust a girlfriend who says I love u to her freinds too. I am loosing my mind, going mad jus thinking of it, i have loved her so much n ignored many just because of her, but she is still not true to me, i know jus talking cant help, i tried hell lot of times, what do i do. I cant take this pain anymore!!!
2007-02-28 18:41:12 · update #1
I tried....I tried talking to her so many time, she said she wont do it from future, she will change but the reality is she is still the same, till what time i can forgive her and be normal. I am just a humen being...
2007-02-28 18:58:03 · update #2
Give it up. You traced a conversation? What are you, Inspector Gadget?
2007-02-28 18:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean I am in the perfect love story as well. It's just the perfect fairytale. Her saying to him "I miss you" may just be a friendly gesture. But maybe she likes to be around him because she can rely on him since they are such good friends.
I would also be a little skeptical about the "I love you" thing too. I mean if my boyfriend said that to one of his female friends, I woud question it too. Tell her that you feel that she is keeping secrets from you and that you don't like it.
You may have tried this but sometimes if you say it more than once it may have a bigger effect. Tell her that you love her and that since you two are so in love that you need to be honest with each other. That is what I do in my relationship.
Also, tell her that sometimes you feel uncomfortable with the way she is with her guy friend. She needs to know the truth. If you two are in true love than you need to share more. And hide a LOT less. Try telling her that.
SHOW her how you feel about her. TELL her how you feel about her. If I have something that I want to tell my boyfriend I SHOW him. I don't mean having sex. I mean show her a good time. Kiss her and look deep in her eyes and tell her how much you love her. Good luck.
2007-02-28 18:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tempest6768 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying whether this is true love or otherwise. have more faith in the position she's given you. you are her man and she loves you. she calls you to say she misses you. and i am sure, she likes this guy as a friend. think of the ways to make her fall madly in love with you again. woo her, make her happy, tell her you miss her so badly when you are away... stop having doubts in this relationship because, save for the guy friend, i think it's quite a good relationship... make her think the world of you by not having doubts about her. tell her you are jealous a little of her and the guy friend. move the world for her... be there for her... if this is going to be a competition, make it so, and she will come around eventually.
2007-02-28 18:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely a one sided affair on your part. Perhaps you can sit down and talk to this girl and maybe casually ask about how she feels about your friendship as friends, bf/gf?
Most importantlof all, you need to express your thoughts and feelings if you want her. If not, just look around for other girls that come your way.
2007-02-28 18:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send her the link to this question and all the answer you would have gotten..dont say anything jus give her the link and thats it when she reads it she will know how this is making you feel and if guilt does not come across her shes cold hearterd and you deserve better.. i serioustly think she should just read this its really deep and it shows how much she means to you
2007-02-28 19:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should spend more time with her and tell her your feelings.
something doesnt seem right here...something you are leaving out of this scenario. good luck peace
2007-02-28 19:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋