Quilty feeling after abortion?

Question

Ive had abortion last year, but i still cant go one with mylife.Im still haunted by my quilt.. I regret that i didnt keep my baby, i regret that i let my bf decide my babys life.. help me..

Answer 1

Please remember that you had an abortion so that there wouldn't be one more child born into this world who wasn't wanted, and wouldn't get the love, and care they need in life. There are too many people in this world today that weren't wanted and didn't get the love, and care that they needed when they were children. They will suffer every day of their lives and cause problems for other people.

DON'T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT DOING SOMETHING THAT PROBABLY WAS BEST FOR THIS WORLD AND EVERYONE IN IT. Don't let other people make you feel guilty either, about what happened in your past.

Go on with your life by looking into your future and be careful that you don't produce another child for your life as it is now.

Answer 2

I let a man talk me into having an abortion I didn't want either, and it's common to feel guilty after that. I'm 100% pro-choice, meaning the _woman's choice_, and it's horrible that men can manipulate us this way because we think we love them.

A year and a half later, I've moved on.. My advice to you is twofold. Dump the boyfriend, first of all. I know, you probably love him. I loved mine too, or I thought I did. But moving past this part of your life isn't something you can do with him around. Second of all, find a counselor or a therapist - forget this stupid pro-life crap on the internet, find a REAL therapist in real life who isn't going to push a bunch of religious junk in your face, but who will actually help you.

You can move on. You're not alone. You just need to find the right kind of help, and there's no shame at all in that.

Answer 3

These feelings are likely to never completely go away (i had an abortion nearly 5 years ago and i still think what if), just remember that you did it for a reason. Babies change your life dramatically. Try not to dwell on the past. Sometimes the time isn't right. sorry you are feeling so low.

Answer 4

i believe its guilt and you will be okay. yes it hurts and you will think of it for the rest of your life. my mother had an abortion when she was 15 she says to this day she dreams of hr first baby and she still crys because she wanted her baby but did it because her parents told her they would disown her and at 15 40yrs ago would have been really hard for hr to do it herself she says she wishes they would have let her give the baby up for adoption but anyways im so sorry because i can feel your pain but it doesnt mean your a bad person or that you did something wrong im guessing your still young and its to late to go back but you have a long life ahead of you. I truly believe in life after deah and that your body has a soul, and that the body is just a host for a soul so look at it as if you did not kill the soul of the baby but the body. when the time is right the soul of your baby will one day come back, you did not kill your first child. you did not drown, shake or murder your baby! do not think like this! people who are pro life will make you out to be a murderer but your not,

Answer 5

Will God Overlook Our Weaknesses?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2002/11/8/article_01.htm

Does Praying Do Any Good? :
- Why do People Pray?
> Does Anyone Hear Prayers?
> Are All Prayers Heard? http://watchtower.org/e/20001115/article_01.htm

WHY Should You Pray?
> Prayer Can Solve Problems
- When All Prayers Will Be Answered http://watchtower.org/e/20001115/article_02.htm

I especially suggest reading the above articles, & the scriptures mentioned in them, compare them to your own Bible, and have a heartfelt 'talk with God'.

What's Wrong With Premarital Sex?
- What Fornication Includes
- Serious Threats
- Learning Self-Control
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/7/22a/article_01.htm

Teen Pregnancy :
- Mothers Too Soon
- A Global Tragedy
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/10/8/article_01.htm

You Can Remain Chaste in an Immoral World
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2000/7/15/article_01.htm

Advanced On-site Search
(In case a link won't work, this can be used.) http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm

Answer 6

I really recommend the free, confidential online post-abortion program available at http://www.healinghearts.org If you sign up for the study, you will be paired with an email counselor, most likely a woman who aborted a baby herself. You can also check the website for Healing Hearts post-abortion groups meeting in your area. I have looked at many, many post-abortion programs, and I believe this one is truly the best. They CAN help you. Please give it a try.

You are not alone in regretting your abortion. According to the Elliott Institute (http://www.afterabortion.org ), 94% of women regret their abortions.

If anyone here is currently considering abortion, please visit http://Abort73.com

As a side note, please be aware that the sites posted above by "Horsense" are Jehovah's Witness sites. I would recommend avoiding them.

Answer 7

The feeling will subside. You would not have made the decision if it were not the right one. Try to focus on the positive in your life.
Set goals for yourself so you can achieve what you want in life. Living a better life will help to ease you mind.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear you're having these difficult feelings...do you have anyone you can talk to about this? a friend, a relative, a minister (if you think you have a cool one who isn't judgmental), a counselor? in the meantime, it might help to get a blank notebook and keep a journal of your feelings about this. hang in there, this too shall pass.

Answer 9

that is a very common feeling after having one! but girlfriend..why did you have him decide!! its your body not his!!..i know its very hard on you right now! but time will go on..and things will get better! lets also say you put that baby up for adoption..you would be having the same amount of guilt!..its ok to feel sad! just remember you can have more babies in the future!! its not the end of the world!! just remember..everything happens for a reason! keep you head up and smile!!

Answer 10

gosh i feel for u. you should find a support group for women in your situation. just try and hang in there, things will get better. i don't think you will ever forget, but you will be able to forgive yourself with time. at the time it was probably the best thing for you, i know thats not an excuse, but you made that decision and its done. you cant change whats done but you can feel better about it. find a support group. ur not alone in this. i will pray for you.