I've been on two dates with this girl and we had a great time both nights. Nothing happened between us, but I think my gentlemanly manners gave her the assumption that I was more interested than I really am. She's totally a cool girl but I am not physically attracted to her.
What should I do? It's not like I can dump her... we're not even going out. But I don't want to dis her by not returning her calls/texts. Any ideas?
2007-02-28 18:26:38 · 22 answers · asked by duce 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Explain to he she is a nice girl and you like her a lot-----and you wish to keep her as your friend--------and you feel it would be best to no go out because you would not want to hurt her. if she persists simply say: "I like you as a friend but I don't want to do anything that might harm our friendship"-----hey---this is quite normal in dating----it's time to move on now---------Good Luck!
2007-02-28 18:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather someone, be completly honest with me (such as letting her know that while you enjoy her company, but don't see it going any further) than string me along, giving me false hope and assumptions. Just be honest with her it will hurt her alot more if you let it go on, and she thinks you are headed towards a relashionship.(but do it quickly, as some girls assume, after a couple of dates it's heading this direction) It woulnd'nt be fair to her, once you lay the cards on the table, she may know someone you would like to meet, and you may know someone perfect for her. If you are able to remain friends, you could help each other out this way, since you said you enjoy her company.Please dont ignore her, that will just leave her more confused and hurt, wondering where she went wrong, and hurt her self esteme. Just be honest, she might feel the same way, talk to her.
2007-03-01 02:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by seven-11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you messed up by calling them dates. this means that you considered her an interest, but are not anymore. there's nothing wrong with that, but if she considered them dates as well, you've been on two of them, and that might lead her to believe that you may lead into something more than friendship, the best thing to do is let the next get together be known that there is nothing more than friendship that can be achieved by these meetings. you will do both of yourselves by getting this out in the open and letting her know that
a: you like her, just not that way and
b: you want to continue being friends, just as long as she knows not to get attached for nothing.
2007-03-01 02:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by gonzo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she calls back again, the nicest thing to do is simply tell her, "Im not that into you." Its short and to the point. You dont have to be mean, rude or ignore her. Just let her know you had a nice time but you just feel that there are no sparks between you. Thank her for going out with you and tell her you'd like to see her around sometime. Dont use the "we can be friends" line either, thats cheesy. Just be honest, and direct so you dont lead her on.
2007-03-01 02:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her and tell her that you dont think this will work out b/w you two. You cant call her, talk to her , go out with her when you dont feel anything for her, thats just wrong! I wont appreciate the guy thats not honest with me, I mean its not your fault that you dont feel anyhting for her, things like that happen, but not telling her and letting her go on thinking you like her back cause you call her and go out IS your fault!
She might really like you and if you continue going out and all, she might really get attaced to you and starts having feelings and eventully fall in love, THEN you will be breaking her heart big time! Just remember honesty is the key to everything , gotta be hoest all the time, if after you told her , she felt the same then you two can be friends! but the communication line has to be open and she needs to know where you stand in this relationship! its a 2 way street :) good luck!
2007-03-01 02:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
casually start talking about other chicks you dig and/or treat her like a buddy (ditch the "gentleman" crap---that sends the wrong message)...that is, be nice but don't talk to her or treat her differently than you would another guy. That way, she can save face if she's the type who's embarrassed by rejection OR she'll just get so damn annoyed she won't bother pursuing you anymore. (Besides, are you sure she really likes you? Maybe you're just being presumptuous!)
Good Luck.
2007-03-01 02:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by a_yahoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. Say that you had a great time with her, but tell her that it felt like you were more hanging out with a buddy instead of a date. That way, you're letting her know that she's a cool person but not being initmate with her at the same time.
2007-03-01 03:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by GJneedsanswers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds kinda lame, but here you go.
You can do one of two things.. Actually, three.
One, return her calls and tell her the truth outright..
Two, return her calls, but ask if she wants to go on a double-date (except, set her up with one of your buds, and get a different girl to go with you, if you can)
Three, don't return the calls, and be viewed as a jerk. It's up to you.
2007-03-01 02:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol your ego is the size of Texas, listen man I highly doubt this girl has obsessively determined to marry you and have five kids after only two dates. Unless you're only dating the biggest, fattest, ugliest, most desperate girls in your town then I suggest you prepare yourself for a huge dose of reality because most women are hardly going to give an egotistical jackoff like yourself the time of day.
2007-03-01 02:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just keep being a friend...and hang out whenever...it is so great to have a friend that you have for a long time..and somebody that you can trust! (which hopefully you can with this one...because I don't know the whole story!) But, if you do, and you end up with another ...you can always set her up with somebody whom you trust...and think highly of...not somebody who would set out to hurt her..ya know?!?
2007-03-01 02:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Rivka 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋