My daughter and I just finished having a heated conversation about love. She doesn't believe true love exist. Even though I have not experienced it, I still have hope, at least for right now, slightly. LOL!! I just have to believe that it does exist.
My daughter, on the other hand, believes that I am living in a fairy tale. Isn't that sad! She's only 16 years old and has not witnessed one couple truly being in love.
Any comments out there? Any words of encouragement?
2007-02-28 18:26:09 · 20 answers · asked by whataday 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Romantic love is chemicals that nature uses to hoodwink us into procreating. The problem is too many people think that temporary feeling is true love. Then, when it fades (as it inevitably does), the real work of truly loving someone begins, and that is when most people turn tail and run. True love is very rare because it take an enormous amount of work, which most people don't want to do. They think it should just "happen" with no effort.
2007-02-28 18:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you define love.
If by "love" you mean the feeling that two people get during the beginning of a relationship, then yes, that is real. Its actually a bunch of chemical reactions in your brain that work kind of like a drug, and give a high, the feeling of "love" in other words. So yes, thats real.
The more complex "love" is that one that comes after the original one fades away (more or less, depending). When you find yourself, years and years down the road, knowing that you love someone. But do you really? Or have you just gotten so used to life with that person that imagining a separation is difficult, like a kid with his pacifier? Thats a much harder "love" to nail down and define.
Of course those are romantic loves. Which is different from univeral love.
The ancient Greeks had god-only-knows how many different words for the different kinds of love.
On the realistic side, no human can deny the feeling that I talked about first, so chances are your daughter is just saying that to disagree with you about something and rebel (shes about the age when that usually happens).
Hope that helps you, and good luck (both with your daughter and finding love)
2007-02-28 18:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jesus W. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The truest love is when one is willing to give his/her life so another can live. Jesus did just that. Read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John in the Bible and you will see that what I am saying is true and did happen.Jesus suffered and died so we could go to Heaven...that's a lot of love. Husband and wife true love? Many wives lovingly wait for their husband to come home from the army/war. This is no easy task. Look at an old couple walking hand in hand. Think they don't know what love is? It happens(especially in older adults) that when one mate is very very ill the other mate will care for that person. They will do special things like bathe the other, cook for, dress, feed, administer medication, transport, even change an adults diaper. Not to mention the everyday tasks like house work, washing, paying the bills, etc. Sometimes the income isn't enough to pay for the ill persons care needs and the house, car, furnishings, etc. have to be sold. Such care, such concern, such attention and forfeiting is love in action.
2007-02-28 18:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe true love does exist. However, I don't believe in love at first sight. Why? Because love comes about only through time. It is a deep appreciation for another human being, which can only come about by getting to know one another. Love also requires an effort from both parties. Just because you've never experienced it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Give it time and it will.
2007-03-07 16:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, true love does exist. I am afraid however, what the two of you are referring to as true love is romantic love, the type that puts butterflies in the stomach. Divine love is the real thing, the real purpose of man on earth.
Divine love may be the ultimate goal, but any love is a starting point. And one of the easiest, commonest, is the love two people have for each other. The love you have for your daughter may not qualify as the one you are dreaming about, but it is no less important.
Keep your dream alive, and soon it will come true. Remember though that when you find your love, it is to help you on your way to learning divine love.
2007-03-07 02:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by RAFIU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to believe in love to understand the feeling of being in love. TRUE LOVE exist alright. But it has to be both parties believe/trust and communicating to each other to make it TRUE LOVE.
TRUE LOVE is been with someone (one and only) truly and faithfully. Ups and down in life we face together, no matter what comes, we will be forever.Without the other, u feel helpless. In this live now.........very difficult to find such a person. But, i m very lucky to have such a husband and 2 daughters for the past 20 yrs this year.
2007-02-28 20:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Liza S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely believe in the idea of love, but when it comes to relationships -- especially marriage -- being deeply in love is just not enough. You have to learn to compromise, to share, to combine your entire life with another human being. That's not always going to be easy. You can love someone with your whole heart, but that doesn't mean that the relationship is going to last. There are so many other things that come into play. "Love is all you need" is a nice illusion, but that's precisely what it is -- an illusion.
However, I do believe in the idea of finding your "soul mate", someone that you love and can be compatible with in all the other ways that count ... you may not be as passionate with this person as you were with your first love, but you'll have something so deep that surpasses anything you've felt before. This is how I feel about my husband. We love each other emotionally, practically, and spiritually. We may not constantly be all over each other or fighting over who loves who more ... but after we put the kids to bed, when we both just collapse on the couch after a long day, it makes me so happy to look over at him and know that I'm sharing my life with thim. I wouldn't trade that for anything in the world -- including the new, exciting, hot and heavy feeling that you can experience with just about anyone.
I guess that is what my idea of true love is. Its not always as beautiful as the fairytales make it out to be ... but its worth everything you have to go through to keep it. Don't give up, sweetie. God's got a plan for us all.
2007-02-28 18:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she's pretty smart. I look around at most marriages and relationships and I don't see people treating each other with a whole lot of love and respect. I think it's important for this young lady to know that "true love" isn't always there 24/7. As a human being it's not possible to be loving all the time, it just isn't. She needs, however, to be aquainted with the love of God, which IS always there for her 24/7. Listen to her. Hear what she has to say and validate her opinions and insights. Then tell her who Jesus is and that we, unlike Jesus, fail often in our attempts to be "truly loving". Good luck!
2007-02-28 18:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by Esther 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How does she know something she has never experienced, we can only experience love we cannot teach it. Love is a word used to explain feeling that we cannot express with words. Who is to say what true love is. Is it caring for someone beyond your own life? Do both parties have to have it order for it to be real. Maybe if you asked her what true love means, it might help you understand why she doesn't believe it. Is it the same as what you believe true love to be?
2007-02-28 18:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Magus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. I've been married 54 years. We have two daughters and six grandchildren. My oldest daughter has been married 25 years. my other daughter has been married 12 years. Love is a growing attribute. It is also evolving. If you cannot change with your love you will probably divorce. With those changes your love will grow not diminish. God is the center of our marriage Hang in there what your daughter see is wants in the news, prove her wrong.
2007-03-08 09:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by j.wisdom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋