ive been talking to this guy for almost three months now. so far i have basically have bought him minutes for his prepaid phone constantly(it has stopped now.) I bought like 7 things for valentine day. I got him a job where i work at. And still my chances with going out with him are still 50/50. Mind you that he lied to me once about this guy on his top 24 on myspace he told me that was his cousin. If fact that is one of the other guys he has been talking to for a year and hasnt gone no where. and also he hasnt toungue kissed me in 2 months we only have toungued kissed 3 times. what should i do? my friends think he is just a gold digger. that he is just using me. and everytime i did buy something he would get mad at me cause tells me not to buy them but he really did needed them. So can anyone help me?
2007-02-28 18:21:23 · 7 answers · asked by Miguel R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you have listed all the things you have done for him (and have also told us about his lack of response) leads me to believe that you already know the answer to your own question... he is a user. Even if he started dating you, your life would be hell (always initiating contact, picking up the checks, etc.). Girl, you need a crash course in self-esteem.
Ask yourself this: What kind of guy accepts freebies from a woman and gives nothing in return? Get angry and get moving, because you sound like a sweet and generous person (and you deserve much better).
Instead of pissing money away on this jerk, treat yourself to some new clothing, a new hairstyle/ facial / pedicure, etc. And most importantly, TELL YOURSELF EVERY SINGLE DAY THAT YOU DESERVE SOMEONE GREAT!!
I bartend nights at an upscale establishment, and I see ugly, humorless women dripping in diamonds... why? Because THEY THINK THEY'RE WORTH IT. You are too... DEMAND to be treated like a lady, and be glad you're not in a relationship with this jerk.
2007-02-28 18:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by NYTEVIOLET 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a gold digger but I also think you are trying to buy love. Relax and let this one go as he's clearly not that interested and with maturity and time you will realise that some guy will love you for the wonderful person that you are and not just using you.
2007-02-28 18:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by friendly face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what has he done to you? You have not outlined what this guy does for you in return. Perhaps, your friends who have a better insight of him, are correct. Clear your mind, step outside and see this as a third party. It is difficult to detach from a person easily, I totally get it. But you are stronger than you think you are.
2007-02-28 18:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely using you so why are you trying to buy his attention? Im not even sure he's straight. He gets mad prolly cause hes got a guilty conscience knowing he's using you when ure treating him so good. Good luck finding a different guy. One thats more worthy
2007-02-28 18:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely using you. But you knew that, you're just looking at him through rose colored glasses. Take them off and see what's going on.
2007-02-28 18:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as clear as the blue sky, he's just using you. cut all your connections with him and charge everything to experience. but make sure you learn your lesson very well.
2007-02-28 18:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been talking to this guy for al...../......Mind you that he lied to me once about this guy on his top 24 on myspace .....OOOPSSSSSSSSSS......
Y O U are talking to a guy who lied to you about another guy????!!!
W H O C A R E S!!!........after all, its your own choice.
2007-02-28 18:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋