if he says he is miserable with the wife
2007-02-28 18:19:24 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to live with knowing that you had an impact on what his kid goes through then go ahead & sleep with him (its NOT just about his needs)... Consider yourself for a minute...
2007-02-28 18:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's okay til he becomes your husband & some women has your attitude towards him if you guys go thru a rough time. Some women sleep with guys that aren't even having or saying they are miserable with their wives. Cuz some like friends with benefits. Soo, are the women that sleep with guys who are miserable (or say they are) better justified than the other ones? Adultery is adultery. I don't know why some people can't wait til divorces... yeah, maybe I think I do know some reasons...
Reminds me of that show Unfaithful were Diana Lane cheated on her husband Richard Gere with some guy that ran a book store. They had some wierd physical attraction when they first met & (weakness, crushes, strong lust from a physical attraction) & they made the mistake of being rash. And it turned it something they wanted more of after they had the first taste. Anyway, it's pretty sad how physical attractions can so blind some people. (It's very rare for it to end up the way it did in the movie, don't get all paranoid, now!) but does show the weaker part of some people & why they cheat, how they get caught up in it. (not the ending though!) And in that married couple's relationship all was good -intimacy & everything. She/They just ended up having such a strong physical attraction & gave in to weakness for a moment. It's wrong, please don't do it. If you have already, confess to God & repent. He will forgive & so can others. God knows the hearts & minds of others. You can come to a strong conclusion or assumption but you'll never know all the truthful whys like God does. He judges.
2007-02-28 18:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nocine 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No! I used to think it is ok to fool around with a married woman. After all it is their decision, right? They are the one committing infidelity, right?
Nope, not the case. You are committing adultery, too. If he is really not happy then he needs to be a man about it and suck it up for the kid or get a divorce if he is not man enough to live up to his commitment of marriage. Can you tell this one is personal!?! For the record, I am speaking from the child's point of view.
Don't be a home-wrecker!
2007-02-28 18:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Maxbps 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's never okay to start something with someone who is already taken. He took vows to his wife and if he's unhappy then he has the choice to leave her. He hasn't taken it so things can't be that bad at home. Forget about this guy. He's just a jerk who's bored with his life and looking for a quick root. Leave it alone before he pulls you into a tangled mess that's going to get way over your head really fast.
I hope you do the right thing.
2007-02-28 18:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No because you cannot just go on what someone says. A man or woman can and will say anything they think will persuade you to do something that you otherwise might feel wrong about. If his life is so bad, he needs to get out of his marriage first not drag you into his mess.
2007-02-28 18:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he may be using you. looks like that to me. and why break up a home. i know you would not want them doing that to you.and if hes is going out on his wife then he will do that to you. be live me that's an old line that i used years ago. that i was miserable with her. you will be left holding the bag.
2007-02-28 18:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course he's going to say he's miserable... Using the word is helping him get some right? So the question back to you is this... Is it okay for your future husband and another woman to get it on if your husband tells her he is not happy?
2007-02-28 18:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny Lincoln Park 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO...r u crazy??? How would you like it if the shoe were on the other foot? Men always say they're miserable in their relationship when they want in your pants! Wise up!
2007-02-28 18:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by kibbie01 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no. you should not. most married men would always say that just to get some fun of you. after that he will say you are miserable to him too.
this will make you miserable then.
2007-02-28 18:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is always two sides of the story. Can't just cheat on her if he feels miserble.It is not an excused. Either work thing out or get out. He just might wanted something from you. Becareful.
2007-02-28 18:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lilian 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋