when teachers are being nasty to ur kids, how to approach them in a positive way so as not to annoy them.?

Question

this teacher has not been giving rewards to my child who deserves it officially and knowing her if i approach her she would be more angrier and not even behave as normal as she projects to be behaving. i want real and practical answer.

Answer 1

you have to ask yourself this...Is these rewards really worth risking the wrath this teacher could unleash on your child ?



complain to the principal and your child gets a reward..than the rest of the year is treated like a piece of crap....principals don't stay in classrooms .....

move your child..and she ends up in a friend of this teachers class..there could be problems....

these things above are what other posters suggested...and this is what could happen..(not that it would..but there is potential for it to happen).......(experience)

my suggestion ...let your child ride this year out....you reward him/her for work well done...explain to your child that not everyone is as nice or fair as they should be ..and not to worry or be upset about it....than hope he/she get a better teacher next year............

the more waves you make the worse it can be on your child........

If you still think you need to take issue on this...than go to the teacher ....not the principal,this is like going to the boss and complaining ..than the boss going to the worker....how do you think this teacher/worker might react if she is already bent to begin with,.....when you meet with this woman be very polite and friendly..extremely so.....inquire about how the rewards are given out and ask what your child might do to better her chances at getting one...and whatever you do ..do not let this woman know you don't like her....make sure she gets the opposite impression..give her nothing that she can turn against your child..........

Answer 2

Since I have been a teacher for 25 years, I think it would be best if you get "prepared" before you go to talk with the teacher. Make sure you get the whole story from your child . Tell your child that when you talk to the teacher that you are going to tell the teacher that "this is exactly what you (your child ) said". I would write down some notes.

Now, for the most important thing of all...when you talk with the teacher...(and you should talk with the teacher first, not the principal, etc. which can be very "embarrassing" if your child is not interpreting the situation correctly for some reason). When you approach the teacher...be sure to give him/her the benefit of the doubt. Teachers usually try to be fair and they have a right to give you their side of the story. To go in with an angry attitude will not win you, or your child, any points.Try to be as sensible as possible.

Usually the real story will emerge...which may be partly an oversight...one way or the other. Smile a lot and be very courteous to the teacher. Remember the teacher holds a lot of power, and you want them on your side. Being a teacher myself, I
know that I appreciated not being "attacked" by the parent. "A spoonful of honey goes down much easier than a spoonful of vinegar." Good Luck. I hope it all works out for your child!!

Answer 3

First of all be very sure your child does officially deserve those rewards (the awful truth is not all children are as honest as you'd like them to be). If you are right then there's nothing wrong with being direct and honest with the teacher. Don't do it in an angry way. You don't want the teacher getting even more unfair with your child.
I have discovered, since I've gotten older, that you can resolve issues in a very calm way. It's like using a bit of psychology. You might ask the teacher, "Is there a specific reason why my child is not getting rewards for her work like the other children are? It's been bothering me and I want to clear this up with you?"
And say this with a kind, sincere expression on your face.
This approach has worked for me hundreds of times. And it really is better then getting into a argument. Not all of us can hold their anger in but I find this is like a game. It's almost fun when people can't figure out why you are being so nice. But if you find that this teacher is not acting appropriately you'd have to be more stern about this. Report the teacher to her superiors if you can't get it resolved. Our children need to be treated fairly so that they can grow up being fair themselves. Good Luck

Answer 4

I'm not sure I'd classify not giving deserved rewards to a child as being nasty. As a mother who's had horrible encounters with some teachers, one of whom actually clawed and shook my child, I don't think the behavior you mentioned is especially nasty. However, it is unfair. I would contact the principal and ask for a three way conference with them and the teacher. Then during the conference, I would ask if there was something that my child was doing wrong that caused him/her not to get the rewards. This puts no blame on the teacher, and therefore no reason for the teacher to retaliate against your child.
In whatever you decide to do I wish you the best of luck. These situations are tricky at best. :-\

Answer 5

if this teacher is always mean or nasty acting towards your kid i would confront her . also ask other parents if they are having the same problem, with the teacher. think about it like this if she is being like this with more than one kid you have a big complain that the principal and possible the school board may want to know about. which maybe you can get this resolved before it goes that far. but definatly request an after school conference with that teacher.

Answer 6

Some teachers don't believe in giving out rewards. A classroom is not the Academy awards or the Grammy's. The children are there to learn period. If you want your child to get rewards then YOU should be giving them to your child.

Answer 7

You are your child's parent, you are the ULTIMATE teacher. My sons' teachers know when they see me coming that the pecking order is my sons on bottom, teacher in the middle and me on top. If my sons do wrong, they answer to the teachers, if the teachers do wrong, they answer to me. That is how it works and the sooner you let your child's teacher know that, the better she will comprehend your position.

Answer 8

i personally would be nasty right back to her! but as being mature adults i understand what your saying so if you think you speaking to the lady will help try it but it prolly wont i would speak to hr first to see what she has to say then i would go to the principle and see if the child can be moved to another class. the principle will have to respect your wishes and move the child if he tells you no then go to your super intendant or who ever is above the principle

Answer 9

annoy them if their being nasty punch the teacher in the face

this is practical

Answer 10

well don't talk to her speak with the principle of the school and let them know the situation and if that doesn't work see if you can have your child moved to another room.