How do you know when you are ready to have sex? I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. But how do you know when you're ready?
2007-02-28 17:41:11 · 21 answers · asked by Tempest6768 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WAIT TILL YOU'RE MARRIED.
I don't know if you're a virgin or not... but I have to let you know about sex.
You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.
You don't just give your virginity to just anybody.
It is the best present you can give your future husband.
It is you... it is all of you.
If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
I am a virgin. I have a boyfriend of a little over a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
2007-02-28 17:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question, you are not ready. Sex is not something that anyone especially girls can ever be prepared for. Mentally, physically and emotionally, these 3 things are very important, to being ready for sex. Love, and preferrably marriage are recommended. There is not set age or time for anyone to be ready. It happens and that is that. What ever you do. Be safe. Never let pressure be your ultimate decision maker. Good Luck:)
2007-02-28 17:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not completely sure then you are not ready.
Kelly is right. The only way to be sure is to wait until you are married. It may not be the most popular or easiest choice but it is the best.
At the very least wait until you have been with someone for 9 - 12 months and you know they really care about you and want the best for you. If a guy ever says,"If you love me you will!" RUN! Don't walk, run away, he is a heal and does not care about you at all.
Be patient! Ask God if you are really flumoxed. Good Luck!
2007-02-28 17:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Maxbps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets skip all this grown up gibberish, when i was 13 i lost my virginity to a girl that cheated on me, and i lost my virginity to ( im 21 now fyi ) and when it happened we wernt thinkin about when we were ready!? it was like an experiment, lets see is A fits into B, and it did and after it was over ( which was fairly short ) we were like " wow thats it?" people and teens make it into so big of a deal that it would make a normal person sick, the important part is not when your ready, is when you do it, use protection, and other birth control ****, you dont wanna be 15 in 9th grade on home schooling becuase your pregnate and the father split... if you wanna feel the experience then do it, it only hurts the first time and yes its true, after thats its like buttering a roll
2007-02-28 17:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by ifucouldbeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u and only u no. No 1 else can tell you 4 u..it also matters on your morals. I personally believe in waiting till ur married..I'm not trying 2 B a mom and be all "DON'T HAVE SEX EVER!!!" or NEthing, and i'm not trying 2 impose my beliefs on u, i'm just saying that it matters on how u feel. What will having sex do 4 the relationship? do u believe it will make u closer? is it B cuz he wants 2? or is it u? All the girls i've talked 2 who've done it w/ thier boyfriend regretted it and said they wished they had waited.
In the end it's all about how u feel and what u believe.
2007-02-28 17:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by jesusfreak_200513 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is VERY important to wait until you're married, I'm 21 yr old male and have had to turn down sex many times, even to the ones I thought I loved. In every occurance I've seen, sex only complicates things, you really need to respect yourself and show yourself that your bf respects you as well by waiting with you... This will lead to a very meaningful relationship that will have rewards better than premature sex 10 fold!
2007-02-28 17:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by Michael M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know you're ready when it doesn't feel "Wrong" on any level.
You know, you may be in love, and everything else is right, and there's that little voice going "I'm just not comfortable with this"...
Stop, wait. Someday that voice will say "This is the perfect man, the perfect moment, and exactly the way I'd hoped it would be."
Hopefully you're in a white dress with a ring on your finger...
2007-02-28 17:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Theresa A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with how you feel. If you want to have sex that is your choice and it is a normal part of life. People will always come at you with the 'God' and 'Christian' point of view and things of that nature but humans are on this planet to live, reproduce and die to keep the species going.
Just know yourself, know your partner and do what you feel is right.
This is something only you can decide for yourself and no one else.
2007-02-28 18:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ranz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you asking this..means you are not ready..lol..idk...how old are you..is the better question..wait until you think you are mature enough to take care of child..lol..jp...you will know when you are ready..your bf has been ready ever since you could pop a *****..don't let him pressure you into sex...you have to be ready for it...MAKE SURE THAT HE WRAPS HIS WILLY...lol...wait another 3 months and then think about sex..
2007-02-28 17:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're young enough to be asking "how do you know when you're ready"... then you aren't ready. Grow up before you let your pants down.
2007-02-28 17:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋