My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, we've been living together for about the same amount of time. Things happened, long story. Anyway, over Christmas he took me to CA to meet his family and friends and we are constantly together. Sometimes he talks about us being old and he asks me about how I'd feel if he'd re-enlist, chose a different career, etc. He had a dream lately, that we were in a foreign country on vacation and I said something about "girlfriend. He said, "well actually, yeah.. girlfriend." I think he thinks about it but isn't ready to admit it or make that step, he's in his mid twenties. what do you think?
2007-02-28 17:26:31 · 8 answers · asked by iman_tx22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says it sometimes, like it'll slip I guess. He'll say, "you need to be strong.. i dont want my wife always relying on me." and stuff like that.. he's very career oriented and he talks about how I'm the woman of his dreams etc, so I think he's just waiting to get where he wants to be.. i am too.
2007-02-28 17:34:36 · update #1
Yeah, he's thinking about it. He probably doesn't know if you're ready for that step though, and is afraid of rejection.
Tell him "I had this dream that we went to the Bahamas (or insert your favorite place) on our honeymoon... " Pause and wait for a reaction. If he looks nervous, laugh and say "Isn't that weird?" If he smiles and looks like it's a good idea smile back and say "Wow, wouldn't that be nice?"
See what happens...
Edit: asking a guy about marriage, or discussing it before hand like you would talk about what restaurant to eat at can ruin the most romantic moment of your entire life. The once in a life time out of the blue, suprise, "Will you marry me" moment.
Please don't ruin it. PLEASE??? If you want to speed things up, tell a mutual friend that you'd love to get married some day, if only your beloved boyfriend would ask you... It'll reach him, and allow him the honor of planning how to ask. If you think money or a big wedding is putting him off, tell the mutual friend how you've always dreamed of just eloping. BE CREATIVE.
2007-02-28 17:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is simple. If he was interested and ready, you would know. He would talk openly to you about it and you would have a ring on your finger. You are getting close to the end of your rope. A guy knows pretty early on whether a girl falls into the freak, friend or forever file. So, if he doesn't make a decision soon, it's time to get walking.
2007-03-01 01:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your living with him,and your together,just talk about it! thats #1 in a relationship.. being able to discuss everything
if u wanna go about the sneaky way however.... lol ask him suttle questions,and drop hints about what kind of ring you want..? ask him where he see's you 2 in the future.. 10yrs 20yrs from now?
what have u got to lose?
good luck hun
2007-03-01 01:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Savannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need someone to draw you a picture, color it, frame it, and hang it on the wall and make you stare it until you "get it"...?
Yes he's thinking seriously about you, it couldn't be anymore obvious.
2007-03-01 01:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His dream was a lame-as(s way of saying you won't be getting married anytime soon. Sounds like mama or papa didn't like you so much.
2007-03-01 01:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he's thinking about it. just dont bug him about it tho. me might change his mind if you keep picking at it
2007-03-01 01:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember say no to drugs and if he insists tell him i do not do drugs
2007-03-01 01:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by The Inmmortal king 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him.
2007-03-01 01:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by cocoa prinzess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋