Do you feel like you are in a no-win situation? If you stay at home. people judge you and think you aren't motivated and if you work, you are selfish and don't give your family enough time. I've been at both places and that is how I have felt. I don't think I have an answer, just wondering what people think.
2007-02-28 17:22:23 · 9 answers · asked by smp1969 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
People are going to have something to say no matter what you decide to do...
Those that want to be at home...think you should be at work because they can't be at home either...
Those that are at home...want you to go to work so that you can be miserable and not spend time with your kids in fear that you might actually do a better job being at home than they are....
But, I think that it all depends on the person that you are dealing with...and if they are not comfortable with the choices that they have made in their lives, then they want you to be just as unhappy as they are....
I personally feel that women should focus on what it is that God expects out of their life...and if that is to be a full time mom...then do it....If he wants you to work or have your own business...then balance it well...
But, that is my opinion...people pay too much attention to things that are not their business...
2007-02-28 17:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you need to do what is best for your family. I too have been a stay at home mom and also a working mom. I do enjoy staying home but my husband needs me to work to help make ends meet. I do sacrifice my time and the kids do see that to run a family you do sacrifice. Depending on what your family needs will determine what kind of hours you have to work. I feel that if you work too much by picking up extra days and working doubles then yes that is wrong because your children need you at home with them so they have a sense of security in knowing that you are there for them. I feel if you sacrifice the finances in order to be with your kids then you will not be teaching your children responsibility. however if you are in a situation where a spouse can support the family and you don't need to work then I would suggest you do a hobby or volunteer or get involved with something so the kids do see you have a life. it is so healthy that you have time for yourself a little each month. People love to judge. try not to react to their comments. you will know in your heart if you are doing the right thing for your family.
2007-03-01 02:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by crazykat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if a woman chooses to be at home and can afford not to work, then it really is the best thing for her children. Don't let anyone judge you for not working outside the home. Being a stay at home mom is a full time job and can be very rewarding. I wish I could have stayed home more when my children were young. You miss a lot not being a full time parent especially with pre-school aged children. But not everyone can afford to stay home and it is a sacrifice many have to deal with everyday. Nobody should judge you what ever your decision is. Besides, it's nobody's business but you and your family's.
2007-03-01 01:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I figure working or not working outside the home is up to the individual family. For some being a SAHM is the best situation in the world. For others WOHM is the best. If the family unit is comfortable with their choice than it doesn't matter what anyone else says.
It's funny though because my DH takes more questions about me not working than I do. It doesn't really bother either of us because we decided together that it was the best thing for our family.
2007-03-01 12:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only do what you think is best according to family circumstances, its cheaper for you to be a at home Mom when you have more than one child that is under the age of 5. Child care is off the charts before school and after school programs
are robbing the piggy too. But! if you must work, As a Mom you have to learn to multi task. Now that you have been on both sides of the fence wear your crown proudly super Mom! and wave the subject of opinion bye! bye!!! Therefore what others think is of no concequence too you. you 're the queen of your domain.
2007-03-01 01:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Outside of my husband, children, parents and my brother I don't care what other people think about me or what I do. I live my life the way I want and make my decisions based on what would be best for my family and myself. I've learned over the years that what a person thinks about themselves is what's important. Other people's opinions are irrelevant.
2007-03-01 09:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a working single mum of three kids............I only got this job july last year...........I need to work for the money but it is breaking my heart seeing the change in my kids because I'm not here for them...............for any mother that wants to stay at home and is able too.........then do it......you kids are only with you for such a short time........they will benefit greatly from their mum being there for them................For working mums like me.....well we just have to do the best we can......and give our kids what we can when we can..........
2007-03-01 10:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
PEOPLE have all the things to say all the time.. u can't jst go along convincing those people.. aRe u convinced?? how ur family take thingS?? That is very important.. we can't simply live for ppl lady?? Those are jst ppl with nothing better to do..
2007-03-01 03:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there too. But I could care less about other people, unless they pay my bills, feed me, watch my kids or give me money, they can kiss my BEHIND!
2007-03-01 02:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by lata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋