going to have him be his best man. Well, his parents basically told us that if he is there, they wont be there. It puts my fiance in a horrible positon. On one side he has his parents who have been there for him and then he has his best friend who has been there also. Granted they did bad things together, and I understand where his parents are coming from but then again, my fiance is upset that he basically has to tell his best friend that he cant come. Also, since his best friend cant come, he is not going to invite any of his other old friends. What is your advise????
2007-02-28 17:14:01 · 14 answers · asked by shelly63795 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
His parents need to put their differences aside for the sake of their son and to keep from losing him. This is a special day for the two of you. It's all about you. If they chose not to come then they will regret it down the road. It's up to the two of you to decide what you want for your special day. You can't be influenced by others. Best wishes to you.
2007-02-28 17:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiance should tell his parents that since it's your day, they have no right to be telling him to he can and can't invite to his wedding. They don't have to talk to the guy if they don't want to but it's your wedding, not theirs and you have every right to invite whoever you want to share your big day. If his parents don't turn up then thats their loss and they'll miss out on seeing their son get married, he shouldn't have to choose between his parents or his best friend, especially not on his wedding day when the purpose of inviting friends and family is to help you celebrate your union.
Good luck and i hope you both enjoy your big day!
2007-03-01 01:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just like to say that it's your and your soon to be husbands' wedding.Not his parents.I'm getting married in March and i had something like this happend to me.I told the person flat out it's my weding and i'm going to have whoever i want come and if you can't suck it up and live with it for one day then fine don't come.I think that you and your fiance have enough things to worry about besides to have to choose between his bestfriend or parents.I think his parents are very selfish.If I where i would never take their side because the put you in stressed positon.plus do you really think that they wouldn't come?I don't think that they would miss it for the world.
2007-03-01 02:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by lilmac_pie2828 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the both of you should sit down with his parents and tell them that this guy is your fiances best friend and he is going to be in the wedding no matter what, tell them that it is not there wedding and to grow up and get over it, parents should not be that imature about something like this......if that is who he wants as his best man it is his choice and his choice only(maybe yours also to an extent)....besides, his parents may be saying that for now but when the time comes they probably wouldnt miss their sons wedding, at least mature parents wouldn't!
2007-03-01 01:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Wings Fan! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who's paying for the wedding? If his parents are that petty i would just invite the friend anyways and i am sure his parents wont cause a scene at the wedding, that is if they have any class at all.
2007-03-01 02:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally my opinion whos wedding is it yours or your parents....I mean I can understand the deliema but do you think his parents really would not turn up to their kids wedding just because they didnt like the guy man thoes parents are screwed in the head. i hope it works out for you cause no one should mess with YOUR special day
2007-03-01 01:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with ALYERIA on this one...she is right...your fiance should invite his friend as his best mann...and his parents...but...they DON'T HAVE TO talk to each other...you and your fiance should invite people that have been there for you guys through your good times...and your badd...whoever you guyzz care about...you should invite....but...who am i to tell you what to do? do what your heart tells you to do...CONGRADULATIONS WITH THE ENGAGEMENT AND GOOD LUCK WITH THE WEDDING!!!!!!! (pluss the planns! *UH OH! lol*)
~Best wishes~
~dEsTiNy~
2007-03-01 01:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that this is you and your fiance's day so you invite anyone you want to come and if someone doesn't like it, it should be there decision to attend or not.
2007-03-01 01:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by loli_smiles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have a small wedding at the JP's office and forget the big wedding if it is going to cause problems.
Bad kids in childhood leave bad scars. I know what the parents are talking about.
2007-03-01 01:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would elope. i know it sounds crazy, but if only the two of you go then your fiance will not have to choose between his parents and his best friend.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-01 03:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋