Would you date a girl who had gastric bypass surgery?

Question

Would you as guy be turned off if you found out the girl you were with used to be 300 pounds? Would you even date someone who has had gastric bypass surgery?

Answer 1

The issue is not really just gastric bypass surgery for most people, but any type of really large weight loss. It's hard for someone not to imagine what a girl must have looked like at 300 lbs (or maybe they've even seen old photos), and a lot of men will be afraid that the girl will end up looking like that again. Besides the looks factor, people often think of obesity as a character flaw, plain old greediness, or a total lack of self-control, without considering all the additional biological and environmental causes that are not the person's fault. So, you tend to think "here is someone with no personal self-control, who doesn't respect herself or her body, and who may very well end up looking very unattractive to me again."

Keep in mind that I'm not saying I think those things! But that's what a lot of people are really thinking, if they're honest.

I'm a girl, and I don't know if I would date a guy with gastric bypass no matter how hot he's looking now. But it's not because of the looks thing; there are just so many limitations on what you can eat, how much you can eat, an obsession with gaining weight, digestive problems, other health issues, etc... I'm afraid his situation might be a big "thing" in our relationship that wouldn't go away. If my boyfriend developed cancer, I'd be there for him through it all, but I don't know if I would CHOOSE to date someone who was currently struggling with cancer. It's the same thing. I'm sorry if it sounds horribly selfish.

Answer 2

Well I don't know anything about gastric bypass surgery, but if the girl was attractive and we had chemistry then I'd go for it despite her 300 pound past.

Answer 3

It really should not matter, not really. But people are funny that way. They want near perfection or at least what they perceive to be near perfection. I would feel somewhat insecure with a man who had gastric bypass.
I'd feel that he would maybe someday lose all self control and go back to his old ways.
To me Gastric bypass is a cop out.

Answer 4

My wife has had gastric bypass.
Would I date someone who has had gastric bypass now that I have lived with it ? (If i were ever single again) I dont think so.
The dumping, the skin surgeries, the tummy tuck, the problems with eating right. Oh, and there is the issue of the possibility of her getting fat again. ( She has gained 23 lbs since her lowest weight and is miserable)
Date another GB person? Nah.
J

Answer 5

dude who cares about the past, what matters is the future, can she make you happy is she fun to be with, thats what matters. bypass surgery is secondary. as long as she is cool to be with, then there should be no issues about her past.

Answer 6

I think they should be more worried about dating someone who is so superficial that they aren't only concerned about what someone looks like but what someone used to look like. That in and of itself is pretty sad.

Answer 7

Yes.

And I would compare abdominal scars.

And I would compare scars on our appendages.

And I would compare scars on our thoraxes.

And I would probably fail to resist from touching other portions of her anatomy.

And..............

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Answer 8

i do not like girls and would not date her either way.
if you are so superficial as to ask the question, the girl is not worthy of you.

Answer 9

all loose