Borderline Personality Disorder?

Question

I was Diagnosed with BPD five years ago, as well as Intermittent Explosive Disorder, Dissociative Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Generalized Depressive Disorder, and Anorexia. I underwent treatment for about a year, and I am still taking meds (Prozac), and I am alot better, though I still have relapses of self injury at times. My question is, can I still get help for these disorders now that I have children without having the risk of having them taken away from me? They are my world, and I do not want to risk welfare getting involved. They do not even factor into reasons why I want to get help. I have self issues. Another thing is, am I eligible for any time of social security or disability? When I was diagnosed, the therapist said that my disorders could very well become a problem with holding a day to day job, which I have never been able to do, even before my diagnosis. Any advice would be appreciated.

Answer 1

As with other mental disorders, the causes of borderline personality disorder are complex. The name arose because of theories in the 1940s and 1950s that the disorder was on the border between neurosis and psychosis. But that view doesn't reflect current thinking. In fact, some advocacy groups have pressed for changing the name, such as calling it emotional regulation disorder.

Treatment

Treatment for borderline personality disorder has improved in recent years with the adoption of techniques specifically aimed at people with this disorder. Treatment includes:

Psychotherapy. This is the core treatment for BPD. Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) was designed specifically to treat the disorder. Generally conducted through individual, group and phone counseling, DBT uses a skills-based approach to teach people how to regulate their emotions, tolerate distress and improve relationships.

Medications. Medications can't cure BPD, but they can help associated problems, such as depression, impulsivity and anxiety. Medications may include antidepressant, antipsychotic and antianxiety medications.

Hospitalization. At times, people with BPD may need more intense treatment in a psychiatric hospital or clinic. Hospitalization can also keep them safe from self-injury.
Because treatment can be intense and long term, people face the best chance for success when they find mental health providers with experience treating BPD.

Living with borderline personality disorder can be difficult. You may fully realize that your behaviors and thoughts are self-destructive or damaging yet feel unable to control them. Treatment can help you learn skills to manage and cope with your condition.

Other things you can do to help manage your condition and feel better about yourself include:

1. Sticking to your treatment plan
2. Attending therapy sessions as scheduled
3. Practicing healthy ways to ease painful emotions, rather than inflicting self-injury
4. Not blaming yourself for having the disorder but recognizing your responsibility to get it treated
5. Learning what things may trigger angry outbursts or impulsive behavior
6. Not being embarrassed by having this condition
7. Getting treatment for related problems, such as substance abuse
8. Educating yourself about the disorder so you understand its causes and treatments better
9. Reaching out to others with the disorder to share insights and experiences

Remember, there's no one right path to recovery from BPD. The condition seems to be worse in young adulthood and may gradually get better with age. Many people with the disorder find greater stability in their lives during their 30s and 40s. Their inner misery may lessen and they go on to sustain loving relationships and enjoy meaningful careers.

Answer 2

you will NOT have your children taken away from you for this reason. Yes, you can still get help and I suspect you are now since you are still getting Prozac. However, if you are getting it from a general practitioner and not a psych Dr. go immediately to a psych Dr because Md's know nothing about psych disorders.

Only social security can answer the eligibility Q and you won't find that out unless you apply. However, they automatically turn everybody down and it is very hard to get on anymore. It is a very involved process where all kinds of Dr's and psychs, etc report your condition, etc.

If you are worried about feeding you and your kids, I strongly suggest you get to the welfare office and apply. Welfare and child services are not going to get involved in the way I think you are thinking UNLESS they feel the children are in danger. Word of advice: do not go there right after a self-injury episode.

Another place for food would be local churches or salvation army, etc. If you have a local homeless shelter or soup kitchen, talk to them--they know where the free food is.

Answer 3

It seems like you have it a little backwards. If you have an illness and you are willing to go for treatment, you will actually look more like a responsible parent. If you have symptoms, and refuse to go for treatment, people might start to worry if your children are properly cared for. Nobody is going to take your children away unless they have a good reason to believe your children are being abused or neglected, or not properly cared for. Your ability to be a good parent will probably be improved if you do go for treatment. I hope that makes sense.

If your illness keeps you from being able to work, there is a chance you can get Social Security Disability. If you haven't had much work experience, it will be harder to get Disability because you may not have put enough money in the system. However, you can appeal the decision, and get disability if you make a strong enough case. It would be a good idea to get a lawyer if you get turned down for Disability the first time. There are many lawyers who will work on contingency basis (meaning you don't have to pay anything unless you win).

Answer 4

First of all BPD is NOT genetic. However childhood trauma and an emotionally unstable environment can lead to BPD. You should seek help. People with BPD can recover with cognitive-behavior therapy. Your concern for your children is a good sign they will remain in your care. Just get help before you completely crash and lose hope. And as far as social security, it is unlikely. Besides, tap into that deep love for your children and start working somewhere. I know it is hard but the best thing is for you to stay busy and productive and this will make you feel so much better. Your children will be proud:)

Answer 5

You can consult a psychiatrist for your disorders without running any risk of losing your children. I just started with a new psychiatrist and he became aware of the fact that I take care of my grandson and he asked a few questions about it but nothing like threatening to take him away. You really sound like you need to be in the care of a psychiatrist and probably a therapist. It would only be good for your children in the long run. When my children were little, we had family therapy. It will be alright. Get the help.

Answer 6

hi responsible parenting is seeking help before you act asking for help will not lose you your kids self harm and a stint in hospital will place you on the child protection radar I am a nurse you will have this for your whole life. and many people have managed their health with the help of others and raised well adjusted children and had productive full filled lives . Please learn all you can about support groups and accept help when you need it . Show your children that with love and responsible treatment this is a condition like any other medical problem and family can get you through i wish you all the best please do not be afraid of help Donela

Answer 7

My exboyfriend had BPD and he went on disability because h couldnt hold down a job either. I know its possible but it is a long road.

As for seeking medical attention... I am 99.9% sure it would be fine. Because the therapist is not allowed to do anything or tell anyone anything unless he believes you are a threat to yourself or your children. As while it sounds like you are cutting, it doesnt sound like you are suicidal, and it certainly doesnt sound like you would hurt you children or cut yourslef around them.

As I have to agree with one of the people above me, BPD is genetic, make sure you monitor your children VERY closely and get them help as early as possible if they show signs.

Answer 8

hullo
BPD is well treated by medication in the beginning,but by time psychotherapy will play a stronger rule,what you need is a long term supportive psychotherapy plus short term behavioral cognitive therapy for self injurious behavior.
social security for this illness may vary according to your country health regulation,you can ask your G.P for that.

Dr solo

Answer 9

BPD Central has links to help you find a therapist in your area. I would talk to someone there about legal issues, although I can't imagine them doing anything but supporting you in your desire to get better.

http://www.bpdcentral.com/resources/therapist/main.php

Good luck. You children will only be better for it.

Answer 10

Keep this question open. I'm going to see my Psych. this weekend and I'll ask him. In the mean time, remember...stay strong. If you can't for yourself right now, start with doing it for your kids. But remember, you're worth more than something...always. Again, keep the question open - I'll ask my Psych. this weekend. He deals in family stuff.