My boyfriend does care about me a lot he tells me so all the time. However, when we talk about if he loves me or not he says that it is a possiability but he does not love me yet. I know that I love him I have for 2 months. How long do I stay and wait for him to love me? After 7 months wouldn't you know if you loved someone or not? Should I wait longer and see what happens we do have a great relationship with trust and respect but not love on his part. Please help!
2007-02-28 17:01:51 · 14 answers · asked by jk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-28 17:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a good friendship and it is possible that he loves you, but not as you want him to. At least he is honest. Now, how did you chose 7 months for your time frame? There is no such thing. It is not 7 months or 7 years. Is either you love someone (I am using "love" as in boyfriend + girlfriend = husband + wife = happy family together), well is either you love someone or you don't. And, how do you know and how long does it takes you to know?? Well, you just know when you know.
He is just a good , honest friend, but do not wait for him. You need more than trust and respect to live happily ever after. After all you can get trust and respect from your boss, and you are not going to marry him, are you? You need love, so keep looking, your prince charming is somewhere out there!
2007-02-28 17:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Eimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, caring about someone you can do without loving them,but it can be the first step in loving someone. if you really love this person as much as you say ,then give him more time. men have a little problem with commitment,it can take a little longer with them, and sometimes longer with that L word. the rest sounds on the right track,give more time.( why rush be sure)good luck.
2007-02-28 17:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by skip3800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. Mine can't say the 3 little words. Don't be like me and waste 5 years waiting for it. 7 months is more than enough.
2007-02-28 17:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Misery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is indecisive, he really doesnt know what he wants. After 7 months, you should have some idea on what you feel, and how to act on it. I think that your boyfriend does love you, but he doesnt realize it yet. I say give him more time to think things through. I hope this helps
2007-02-28 17:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by I am Noodles! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way it is. guys sometimes have problems using the L word. probably because we want to be sure we really do before we say it. when girls just want to hear it and most of the time say it has little to no meaning. for some guys the word Love means alot. atleast in my mind it does. it took me 8 months before i started to tell my girlfriend i loved her. she would always get upset with me because i wouldnt say it before those 8 months but why say it if i dont mean it?
2007-02-28 17:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't state his age, but I would bet he is still young and not ready for the "commitment that comes with saying I love you" because of that, it is up to you whether you stick around---how much time do you want to wait? My daughter had a similar situation and I keep telling her he is like Mr. Big on sex in the city, and that someday he will come around-- but she's not interested in waiting--though she is not dating anyone either---he broke her heart--and it's sad, really, really sad.
2007-02-28 17:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by sandybrandydot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant wait for love to happen because it doesnt! careing about a person as an example is like caring about your family, yes you automatically love your family but you dont think about that becuase its part of the caring process... Soo.... if your gunna keep asking your b/f "do you love me" of coarse hes gunna say yes to be with you, but you cant envoke this feeling, a human has to naturally feel love towards another person.....
also you have to learn the difference between love and lust, lust is simmilar to love but differs in the way that lust is just a feeling that you want to be with that person, but you dont have to care about him, but you can love a person and not care about him, the combination of both creates love, and true and real love is hard to find...
good luck, and dont get hurt
2007-02-28 17:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by ifucouldbeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about it....wats the point of a relationship if u dont love the person ur with,i think its just a waste of time and u should find someone who will love u back and not have to wait for it
2007-02-28 17:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by eazybreezy103 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are both very different things. Love is a very strong word, and I think it gets thrown around hastily all too often.
You should be very happy that your boyfriend could be so honest with you. Most guys would just say it to keep you happy.
2007-02-28 17:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by loza500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your bf is as committed to the relationship as you are. Loving someone is not something that just happens, Its a decision you take very day. It takes effort and work to love someone and your bf is not meeting you half way. Dump the looser!
2007-02-28 17:12:32 · answer #11 · answered by john s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋