I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now, and we're both in love. I can completely be myself around her, and we usually have a lot of fun. Yet, recently we've been fighting a lot, and I've gone through spells of wanting to end the relationship. In a few months, I'm leaving for the army, and we won't have a whole lot of contact for about 4 years. She says she is willing to stick with me, and I believe her. Yet, she fears that she loves me more than I love her, and I feel like it is true. I love her, but at the same time I'm having my doubts about the relationship. Sometimes I can't help but wonder what else is out there, or I just focus on all the fighting that has happened between us lately. We've almost broken up quite a few times, and shes so wary of that now. She is an amazing girl, and most of the time she makes me feel good, but I still have my doubts.
2007-02-28 16:59:23 · 6 answers · asked by nowayman72 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this is probably something only I can truly decide, but I'd like to hear some advice and experience still. Thank you for your time and help.
2007-02-28 16:59:44 · update #1
Very brave of you to join the Army.God bless you.
In my experiance,whenever I start douting someone...I'm usally right.Yet,this could be because of the fighting and you going away.All I know is once I start douting,thats when the trouble begins.Listen to your gut.
2007-02-28 17:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by noname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can say is that relationships take work, after the first year of serious dateing the real people start to come out in the relationship. Just because your fighting doesnt mean you shouldnt be together it just means there is a rift between you and you should **** down and talk through the problems. Listen to her side and her feelings and i mean really listen and as long as she does the same even if you dont agree you can come to a agree to disagree truce in the problem. Now you are leaving for the Army soon and Im going to be completly honest in my opinion when i say that after only a year and a half together any long term time apart can be hard for the both of you as far as staying together expecially if your mind is woundering "What else is out there".
So my advice for you is this.... you two sit down both with pen and paper and write out why you love the other person...sounds easy but give it a try...when you both are done give eachother your paper. if its blank or something like "your hot" then time to move on. But if it can describe some feelings, and yes guys have feelings, then come up with some things you can do to keep eachothers love going for eachother, the best one i have to tell you is this...in any action you do, in any words you speak always think about how it would affect the other person and if you think it wuld be bad or hurtfull then dont do it and you just might work out. Good luck in this and in the Army.
2007-03-01 01:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by mckinlyjoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my bf for almost 5 years and we've gone through a lot together. We've fought and still argue now, but we love eachother and promised eachother that we would work through it all. There were times when I thought that maybe there might be someone out there who's better for me, but I haven't met anyone more compatible. If you continue to have doubts, then maybe you should take a break from her to figure things out. If you find yourself missing her then maybe there is a chance. Sometimes taking a break can make things a little clearer.
2007-03-01 01:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Betty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you doubt the person that you've been falling in love with. Do you fill unsecured? Why have you been fighting alot lately? Is she seeing someone at your back. Why do you say that 4 yrs of noncontact is too much.........True love does not rush and distance is not a matter. Bro, the ball is in your court
("maybe you were not meant for each other")
2007-03-01 01:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Beta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For her sake and your own, you should probably ask her to move on to other fellows while you are away unless she's pregnant. If she's pregnant then you must marry her before you leave for the baby's sake. Otherwise, allow her life to go on as you serve your country, but continue contact through letters and phone calls to keep in touch with each other. If your relationship is meant to outlast your service, it will and you'll see her on your leave. If not, she'll move on and you'll meet some beautiful women in your duty stations that will satisfy all your manly fantasies. Good Luck!
2007-03-01 01:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what you want! I think you have a problem...
2007-03-01 09:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋