Is it a bad idea to try and make friends with my ex?

Question

My bf and I broke up 2 months ago. Ever since then I've been miserable. I broke up with him because he neglected me & always put me before everything else. He basically made me feel unimportant & yelled at me when I tried to work out problems with him. After we broke up, since I was miserable, I tried to get back with him, but he wouldnt take me back. He said I hurt him by breaking up with him.

I didnt really talk to him for about 2 weeks but a couple nights ago he called me & he seemed really sad. When I asked him why he called he would say "i dont know" but he said he was sick and miserable and he was crying. We didnt really get that far in our conversation and I havent talked to him since that night.

What's bothering me now is that I dont want him out of my life, I want to try & work out a friendship with him. But my friends tell me to just forget about him completely & to lose all contact with him. Should I call him & make friends, or should I just cut him from my life?

Answer 1

Have sex one more time for old times sake and then see how things go from there.....

Answer 2

Go for it! My ex boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago and now we are good friends. I was lonely for a while after we broke up but I couldn't imagine him not being in my life at all. If you really want to make things work, go for it. Call him and ask him if he wants to hang out just as friends.

Answer 3

At this point, you either need to get back together with him (which it sounds like what he wants) or let go of him. Being friends with him IS possible at some point, and that's a very mature thing to do, but it's probably too soon. You both need to have some distance from the relationship for that to work.

Answer 4

Turn the situation around. If he had broken up with you, how do you think you would have felt? I am a firm believer in trying to make as much of life as positive as possible. He is heartbroken right now, but he is still speaking to you. That in itself is a blessing. Don't pay attention to what your friends are telling you to do. Keep on being his friend. Let him be your friend too. Believe me, your relationship will be great even as friends.

Answer 5

ok..... well, if he neglected you,that means you shouldn't have any more serious relationship with him.he could do it to you again if you forgive him.but it sounds like you probably could have a little bit of a friendship.when you said he called you and sounded sad,it could've been he just wanted you to get his attention or just WANTED YOU to feel sorry for him.i think you probably could have a friendship with this guy,just don't get too serious.

Answer 6

You could try working it out as friends but is that what he wants?

Just give time and once things have settled down then try and make a go of it as mates

Good Luck! :)

Answer 7

It takes very mature persons to comprehend that. I incredibly have an ex-husband and he and that i've got been pals till the day he died, and his spouse and that i are seen friendly to a minimum of one yet another whilst he replaced into on his death mattress, she referred to as me and that i replaced into very thrilled that she lined me and he or she gave us privateness to communicate to a minimum of one yet another. i'm additionally nonetheless pals with a some time past bf, like decrease back in severe college bf, and he and his female pals have been pals in a similar social circle. My motto is, as quickly as we are completed we, are completed! even in spite of the undeniable fact that he makes me offended we are nonetheless pals and pals to his relatives besides as mine.

Answer 8

i wish my girl will do what you did and want me back so i could love her like i really want .just try to see if y'all can work it out cause true love is blind and you cant see whats gone happen next so don't give up

Answer 9

all is depend on you.