will i ever get over the passing of my mpther?

Question

my mother passed away one month tommorrow. we were best friends and i quit working to spend all my time with mother and i am very depressed.

Answer 1

Don't worry, time will heal this. Eventually.

Answer 2

No body ever get over the grief of losing a loved one, especially not someone as important as a mother. What happens is in time you learn to live with the grief and the loss. One day you'll be doing something or you'll hear something and you'll think about your mum and you'll be able to smile. Remember the good times you shared with your mum and don't be mistaken, she's never far from your side.
Different people cope with loss different ways, i personally take a deep breath and bury myself in a project or work. Some people cope by sealing off the persons room and never touching it again, others the opposite. I'm sure you'll find your coping mechanism and learn that life goes on. The people we love don't ever really leave. They're in our memories everyday and come to visit when things get tough to help us through.

I'm sorry for your loss and i hope your future gets brighter.

Answer 3

Hi Alice. I answered one of your other questions this morning before spending today at the funeral and wake of the 14 yr old, special needs daughter of two very close friends. I understand your pain, my father is in the last stages of dying from lung cancer. So death, whether it be sudden or expected, is prominent in my life at the moment. You know what... you don't have to 'get over it'. Cherish the memories, don't try to hide or forget them- remember the times you laughed together, cried together and disagreed with one another. Your mother lives on in you and quite probably, has immortality in you or your siblings bloodline. Whether you like it or not the sun will rise tomorrow, and then at the end of the day it will set. Life will go on, choose how you will be a part of it. You, also, will be remembered by those who cared about you for who you are. Be someone. Be the one you want to be remembered for. Hugs, cheers and sunshine.

Answer 4

You will never get over it nor should you. You lost someone you loved dearly. You will learn to live your life and exist with the pain. You sort of put it in a box up on your closet shelf in your mind. You know it's there, sometimes you'll take the box down and cry and feel the pain as though it were fresh. As time goes on you'll take the box down less frequently and you might be able to go through the box without crying. BUT the box will always be there, you'll just have made peace with it. You can make peace with this pain you will now live with by not denying it and by not letting it break you. When you honor your mother's memory you gain peace.

Answer 5

You will always feel a void not having you mom around but it does get easier. My mom and me were best friends too. She died 9 years ago last December and I honestly didn't know how I could possibly go on without her. But, one thing I did that helped me a lot was to keep very busy. Don't get me wrong, I took plenty of time to cry too but couldn't dwell on it all the time or I would go crazy. Just this last week or so I was watching old family movies and when I saw her and our family interacting it was just like coming home. I could actually smile and enjoy the scenes. Early on though this wouldn't have been a possibility. Hang in there. It does get better.

Answer 6

*Hugs* I'm so sorry in the loss of your mother. My sincere condolences. I can't even begin to imagine the ache that you must feel. It is, however, pretty common to feel depressed to a certain extent after such a close person especially a parent, passes away. Perhaps knowing that she is in heaven and watching over you can help. It helps me deal with that type of loss albeit I haven't lost a parent. If you are really having difficulty functioning due to your being depressed, please do talk with a therapist that specializes in grief counseling. And perhaps you can attend a local self-help support group for those that are grieving the loss of a loved one. Wishing you much better days ahead.

Answer 7

You don't really get over it. It just gets easier to deal with as time goes on. There is nothing wrong with missing her and you will be depressed for a while. If you keep having a problem with being deopressed think about a grief counselor. What helped me is writing things down in a journal-it was like getting off your chest. I did mine like I was writing to my mother and having a conversation with her. I did this for about a year and it really did help. If you have some one you are close to you can talk to-they just have to listen, that will help also just dont hold it in and dont think you are by your self.

Answer 8

YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE MEMORIES OF HER, and SOMETIMES, THE HAPPIER THE MEMORY, THE MORE PAIN IT BRINGS. HOWEVER...AS ONE OTHER GUY SAID."TIME WILL HEAL THIS" AND IT WILL. YOU SHOULD GET UP AND OUT AND DO THINGS AND KEEP BUSY...NOT IN A MANNER OF TRYING TO FORGET HER...BUT IN A MANNER OF YOU KEEPING YOURSELF OUT OF THE SLUMPIEST OF SLUMPS. ALSO JUST REMEMBER THAT THOUGH THINGS CAN always be better, they can ALWAYS....ALWAYS be worse.
Also don't try to find a replacement for her...for no one can amount to her. Just Love people for what they are and don't confide too much into any 1 person....that's like putting all your eggs in 1 basket. Just know that somebody somewhere Loves you and you most definitely WILL see her again.

I am SO sorry for your loss. and I hope the best 4 u 4ever. May the lord bless you everlastingly.

Answer 9

My mother died Mach 19th 02 so I;m coming up on it.No you will never get over it that isn't something you want to,because you always think about her and you miss her and even after this long I can sit here and type this and cry because I miss her.It's ok .She loves you and she is watching you and watching over you and waiting for you to come and be with her.It was hard for me. Because my mother was 54 and had brain cancer.I was ther for her too.It was hard.|It's bad when they can't say goodbye,and you can't because of the drugs for the pain but I hope you were there to see her and let her know how much you loved her even if she couldn't hear you.

Answer 10

I lost my mom nearly 30 years ago when I was young. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her. You will probably never be the same person, but eventually the hurt is not so near the surface and you can enjoy the memories that you have. So sorry about your loss.

Answer 11

It's true.....the saying that "time heals all wounds".

You will never get over losing your Mom, but you will get over the depression. Just have faith that your Mom is in a better place where there is no suffering and she is safe.
Be happy that you had her for as long as you and did smile when
you think about her and all the great times you had.
You will see her again in the next life, until then enjoy this
life....and as Bob Marley sings...."Don't Worry...Be Happy".