Hi well i really like this girl. We used to be really good friends and used to talk all the time but now we don't. We don't talk that much anymore because she beautiful and very popular and well im not good looking and not that popular. I don't aim her sometime and she talks to me a aim but not like we used to. I just want to be good friends like we used to be and want to get close enough to ask her out. I don't want to ask her out untill i reestablish my close friendship with her. Im aware that theirs other girls out there but i don't want other girls i want this one i can't stop thinking about her and im not a stalker don't worry. I just need advise and how to became her friend again. Thanks
2007-02-28 16:41:31 · 11 answers · asked by a guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Hopefully by the end of the conversation you will know what's up between you 2 so you can sttop thinking about her and get on with your life. Life is too short to be in the situation you are in right now. Talk to her.
2007-02-28 16:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If you are sweet and caring, and you sound like you already possess these qualities, she'll come to realise how lucky she is to have a friend like you. Don't sweat the waiting game. If you wait too long - someone else will beat you to the punch. Just go talk to her. Ask her what's up, long time no speak ... you know friendly stuff.
If she likes you she'll respond. Don't think badly of yourself if you don't feel gorgeous. Looks arent everything and a lot of gorgeous guys out there are horrible to girls.
Most girls deep down want a nice decent guy. But they need excitement - so the thrill of a bad boy but not really a bad boy. So play a little hard to get. Keep the excitement. Don't be too all over her or you'll scare her away.
After you give her time to get the message that you asked whats up? Wait a couple days (at least a week) then try once more. If she responds to you while talking thesecond time ask her to coffee or something small - like a movie. If she doesn't respond back off. Give her space and time. Then try once more. If by that time no response you may have to wait a really long space before trying again (I'm talking like a month).
2007-02-28 17:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by nivi_angel007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its often said that honesty is the best policy. try telling her exactly how you feel (leaving out some of the more intimate of your desires, i.e. wanting to date her). let her know you miss her friendship and you don't know where it went wrong. really sugar it up but you seem genuine enough anyway so don't worry too much. if she doesnt react or doesn't understand and continues to do what she's doing then you're experiencing life. a shitty part of life but life nonetheless. friends leave friends behind all the time. take what you've learned from her and the experience and apply it to your future friendships. i know its hard to think you could like another girl, that none can compare to her, but your heart will move on. just give it time. patience is a virtue for a damn good reason. and, if things work out for you, be still cautious of the past and be aware that it can all change in a moment. good luck.
2007-02-28 16:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by Pierce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? i think you really didnt lose your friendship with her. it's just all in your mind, maybe u might be thinking that bcoz of her status you dont fit to be her friend anymore.. if i were you, stop thinking about that.. you said, both of you are really good friends before, then there's no problem.. as long as both of you can still feel the same way with one another.. if you are really good friends then her becoming so popular and you just an ordinary guy, will not matter.. stop thinking that you are a nobody, because if she really treats you as her friend, then she will never take your friendship for granted.. talk to her.. tell her you miss her, you miss the friend u have known before.. and im sure she will listen!
2007-02-28 17:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by kReiny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you're already friends and need a little more confidence in yourself. Why not ask her out right now?? Wouldn't you rather know now then later. What happens if you go all out in just being her friend and then find out later that someone else asks her out and you waited too long to pull the trigger. Ask her now and if she says no then move on to someone else. Girls like the guys that take action. Good Luck!!
2007-02-28 16:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well talk to her buy using your cellphone maybe,
you know friendship is good in our life it can prevent us to be more lonely i mean someone we can share our happiness, i know that love begins in a close friendship so thats why you need to be more close at her, sometimes that is not our reason so we have to get closer, but to have someone we make happy!!
2007-02-28 16:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by kent r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you miss the time that ya'll used to talk together.That you want your friendship back.
2007-02-28 16:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by southcoastgirl01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another girl. There are too many out there. Stop wasting your time.
2007-02-28 16:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be real to her, be yourself, if u gt a chance to meet her again, say something like.."Hey, its been a while since we talk... how's everything for ya?"
Be sincere!
Good Luck~
2007-02-28 16:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by Josephine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honestly,be yourself..... dont be one of those wanna be popular jerks,because she will think your a jerk.so be yourself,be nice to her
i think thats the only advice i could give you.
2007-02-28 16:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋