We're not fighting or anything right now which is awesome but we seem to be fading from each other because we're both so busy and just don't have a lot of time to spend together. We've already broken up like 3 times in the past and have been together (excluding the break up periods) for over two years. I don't want to break up again because we always seem to just get back together again. Any suggestions?
2007-02-28 15:55:10 · 11 answers · asked by Michael 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AWWW that is so adorable that you are asking. That means you really must care. I wish my fiance were like that. We haven't broken up but are going through the same thing.
My suggestion would be to, if possibly, surprise her at work and meet her for lunch or randomly send flowers to her at work or to her and/or your house.
Take some time out to spend just with her. Even if that means you have to miss a class or stop playing a video game (aka my fiance ;) )
You really have to make time for yourselves otherwise the damage will be done and irreplaceable.
Good luck and let me know how it's working out!!!
Sounds like she has a great catch but just doesn't realize it.
2007-02-28 16:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by chrisnterri520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it will never be like when you first met. When two people first meet they hide thier flaws, and do everything in there power to "win you over" after they feel that that they are steady couple they do not try as hard and let there true colors come out in hopes that you can accept it. Having problems in your relationship does not nessecarilly mean that the relationship is going sour, but means that maybe you they just feel comfortable with the relationship. Real life means being busy busy busy. You just have to learn that just because you do not have a fairytale (or rather) love story relationship , (like it seemed in the beginning), does not mean that you do not love each other. All Relationships in the real world are not spent with every moment in eachothers arms. Although many wish, dream, and feel it should be this way. You two are going to be just fine. just spend the time you do have together not fighting about how much time you DONT spend together.
2007-03-01 00:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by stick_e_bun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i was in the exact same position, and had broken up with my girl 3 tiems as well, what i recomaned you doning is to do somthin u have not done befor yet, paintball, lacrosse, street louge, fishing, somthin random, and a lil off the wall, but make it personal. It will hepl break u from a rut, also put some time aside for the 2 of you and tahts it, no one else, no friends nothin like that, dinner is good, but no friends ok, its all about u 2 time
2007-03-01 00:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by laxgod55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but it sounds like something that's just comfortable for you guys and not exciting and fun. It doesn't sound like you're just dying to be together. I think maybe your relationship has run it's course. And when you break up and get back together that many times...well that should tell you something there. There's a reason you break up and boredom or being lonely/not having someone might be the only thing bringing you back together. Good luck
2007-02-28 23:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Relationships arent's simple. They aren't something that one person can say "Hey I know how to solve this problem." And then the problem is solved. It's unrealistic. I think that you just need to sit down and talk with her bro. It sounds like a freakin loser way to deal with things. BUT! If you sit down, explain the situation she will know how you feel. She will inform you of how she feels. And then you two can move on as a couple.
I am currently in a relationship with my bf, going on 3 years now. We have fought a lot. And the one thing that I have realized is that poor comunication is what kills a relationship or diminishes it in some sort. So for 2 guys to deal with a relationship, which we all know how stubborn we (guys-gay or straight), I have faith in you.
Best wishes to you and your girl. :)
2007-03-01 00:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Your Mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be missing each other. Don't see it as fading. It you stopped thinking about breaking up, and see it more as time apart, that should definitely help.
Reinvent yourselves. When you make time to spend with each other, be playful, role play, take her somewhere for the weekend. Do something that you don't ordinarily do. Maybe you can romance her all over again. Sing under her window, be silly when you see her, make her laugh. She may react to you and may return the favor.
Bring her to her knees with beautiful words, and she may bring you to yours in new lingerie ; )
2007-03-01 00:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Unsure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to break up, next time your boyfriend say something you donot agree, just keep your fat mouth shut.
2007-03-01 00:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have a relationship and it is progressing or maybe you are growing apart....only the two of you can figure it out.
2007-03-01 00:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a chicken, weedeater, and some duct tape; be creative. Spice up your luvin' time!
2007-03-01 00:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Danny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hit her. When my womens act up I keep my pimp hand steady and slap 'em around. Then I says "*****, I love you" and they says "I is sorry" Then they is afraid of me and never act up again. NEVER. Also carry a piece wit you.
2007-02-28 23:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Colin C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋