I'm the sister of the groom and have been invited to the personal shower for the bride. Dinner already is costing me $55... What do I buy for the bride? My soon sister-in-law to be. We don't get along too well. She criticizes every thing I do and say, I'd like to get something she won't belittle me for, but have no clue. Any ideas?
2007-02-28 15:50:52 · 11 answers · asked by MyrtyGert 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well as the sister of the groom you may be invited to more than one shower...so be prepared. Usually you would be invited to all of them.
A personal shower is just that.....personal things for the bride to be.
Usually they will give you sizes, maybe some preferences, and some needs for a honeymoon, etc. ...or maybe a store where she is registered. If you don't have any of these, then talk to whoever is giving the shower....maybe her close friends...and get some ideas...like favorite cologne, bathrobe, slippers, other nightware, etc A personal shower is "personal"...so you need to know what she likes....but jewelry, a make-up set, etc. also would fit....and she has told somebody what she would like.
The dollar amount isn't so important as to choose something she would like. You can also go in with someone else and buy a nicer gift....that is perfectly acceptable....especially if you are going to more than one shower.
2007-02-28 16:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sweet, giving person and undeserving of the treatment that your sister-in-law to be has given you, or will be giving you. To spend money on the dinner and now to think of an unusual bridal shower gift, so that she will not be critical of you or the gift? This is what "I" would do but you may not do it as you are a nice person and love your brother too much.
1. Do not attend her bridal shower at all. That should give her a big clue on how you feel about her but fake a good reason why you cannot go.
OR... if you decide to attend...
2. Give her a ordinary gift certificate from a restaurant, Nordstrom's, whatever, as since she belittles you and the things you do, show her that you do not and will not put an extra thought/effort into buying her a gift.
You go girl!!
2007-02-28 16:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mei Lin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she registered at a local department store I would pick something nice in the price range of $50 to $75. A small appliance, linens; crystal vase; something she would like. I would ask her Mother or sister. If she is difficult to get along with, just be yourself and don't go down to her level. Do the right thing for your brother. Give a gift receipt and if she doesn't like it, she can return it. Best of Luck
2007-03-01 04:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that picking something from the registry is a good idea-if they are registered. That way, you know it's something they picked out personally. If you can't find something in your price range, then I'd say a gift certificate for whatever kind of stuff she likes. If she likes pampering herself, then get her a gift certificate for a massage or manicure. I once got a gift certificate from Pier 1 for someone because they had everything they needed for their home and I had no ideas on what to get them or how their home was decorated. You can get pretty creative with gift certificates. Another idea is to make her a basket full of goodies. I got a basket filled with non-alcholic champagne, 2 champagne glasses and 2 candles as a wedding gift from my aunt and I loved it! Good luck!
2007-02-28 20:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Angelwings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer, pick something from the registry. You can't go wrong, just don't go too cheap, or then she will pick on you for being cheap. Although that's not something personal. Maybe a nice nightgown and robe combo, something in white, nice for the wedding night.
Sorry you have to deal with this kind of person. Good luck
2007-02-28 16:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I'd get her a gift card for somewhere so she can pick out her own gift. Who knows what she wants better then her? Don't put a lot of money on the card but enough for her to get something nice.
Good Luck
2007-02-28 16:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear how nasty she is to you.... It's very thoughtful of you to even be concerned about what to get her. I would just play it safe with something classic or practical.
- Gift Certificate to a retaurant they like
- Picture Frame
- Hand Towels (My sister registered for these monogrammed hand towels at Pottery Barn that are really nice - see link)
http://www.potterybarn.com/products/p3290/index.cfm?pkey=cbthtowtow
Best of luck! And your a good sister-in-law, whether she sees that or not!
2007-02-28 16:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a mouse trap, and tell her that it's to stop "the patter of little feet".
2007-02-28 15:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A framed picture of your brother, her fiancee, as a baby or toddler.
2007-02-28 15:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by reflex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh....ask your brother. Then if she criticizes it, you can just say who recommended it and make her look like an ass.
2007-02-28 16:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by shogun_316 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋