in the bathroom?

Question

I recently walked in on my son (13) he was...masturbating in the bathroom.I have no idea how to deal with this.is this normal?have any other mothers been through this?

Answer 1

Very normal. Try not walking in on him again though lol. I wouldn't bring it up, however. Could be very damaging.

Answer 2

It is thought that most people begin masturbating when reaching adolescence. Many scholarly and clinical studies have been done on the matter, and many informal surveys have asked the question. A 2004 survey by Toronto magazine NOW was answered by an unspecified number of thousands.[11] The results show that an overwhelming majority of the males — 81% — began masturbating between the ages of 10 and 15. Among females, the same figure was a more modest majority of 55%. (Note that surveys on sexual practices are prone to self-selection bias.) It is not uncommon however to begin much earlier, and this is more frequent among females: 18% had begun by the time they turned 10, and 6% already by the time they turned 6. Being the main outlet of child sexuality, masturbation has been observed in very young children. In the book Human Sexuality: Diversity in Contemporary America, by Strong, Devault and Sayad, the authors point out, "A baby boy may laugh in his crib while playing with his erect penis (although he does not ejaculate). Baby girls sometimes move their bodies rhythmically, almost violently, appearing to experience orgasm."

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation

Reading or viewing pornography, or sexual fantasy, are often common adjuncts to masturbation. Therefore, as a mother, we can somehow prevent our children to indulge is such activity if we always guide them and take away from our children pornographic materials, inculcate to them the value of chastity, or better yet to openly talk to our children about sexuality (just like sex education in school so the children will know the pros and cons of their actions).l

Answer 3

Sure, it's very normal for a guy or girl doing that.

However, I think that u should not go into the bathroom when you know that he is bathing. I think u also didn't want your parents to go into the bathroom when u were bathing at the age of 13.

Hope that helps!

Answer 4

Wouldn't you expect someone to knock for you? Yeah, it's normal, just start knocking on closed doors. :-)

This is funny because my friend is a homehealth nurse, and she just did the same thing with her patient, he's seven-two. So we figured guys pretty much do it from onset of puberty (12 or so) until they die. Although another YQ was just asking about her two year old playing with himself, so maybe even younger ;-) lol!

Answer 5

I'm afraid it's normal. Learn to knock. At 13, he should be allowed some measure of privacy, especially in the BATHROOM. I think if you talk to him about it, he'll just be embarassed and ashamed. Boys don't want to talk about this kind of thing with their mothers. However, it might be something his father can talk to him about, if Dad's in the picture.

Answer 6

This is perfectly normal for a thirteen year old, but try to give your son some privacy at this age this is when they become interested in girls and their hormones start raging he is just simply exploring his body more,

Answer 7

Completely normal. Leave him alone, you will only embarrass him if you try to talk to him about it. Its part of being a pubesant boy!

Answer 8

I'm a guy. It's normal but getting caught isn't. Poor kid, in his eyes, he is never going to live that one down.

Answer 9

Get a lock for the door or knock first.

Answer 10

That is normal. Just forget about it. no since bringing it up and embarrassing him.