what can i do now?

Question

so heres the story. my boyfriend and i live together but before we moved in together i told him i had to be at least engaged to live with a guy. he said we will get marrid, but he just started a new job and wanted job security before he made a commitment to buying a ring etc... so he's working for the new company for a little over a month now and things are great bwt us and we have been looking at rings every weekend. he was really close to buying a ring last weekend, but i told him i wanted it to be a surprise and the only reason i was ring shopping with him was to give him an idea of what i liked. anyways, now i feel like i ruined my whole surprise of being proposed to and that kinda means a lot to me. its like, i know hes going to propose, i know the kind of ring he wants to buy and i know its all happening pretty soon. i cant take back time, but do you think i will still be surprised and it will still be a memorable moment in my life?

Answer 1

You will still be surprised. I used to beg my boyfriend to get engaged and everytime we went anywhere or did anything I would think, "Oh,this is it, he's going to ask me", and it never happened.

Every jewellery shop we walked past I looked in and showed him what i wanted. Without me knowing, he had bought the ring!! It wasn't until 4 months later that he proposed, and I couldn't believe it when it happened. I actually said to him, " You'd better not be F@*king joking!", which in the end I kind of ruined the moment. But it was all good and we have now been married five years and have two children. So Don't worry about it. It will still be a moment to remember and all the best!!

Answer 2

Well, I went ring shopping w/ my first husband and picked out my ring and I was still surprised when I got it. We had to put it on lay-away at the jeweler's and I didn't know if or when I'd ever get it. When I finally got it I was surprised and excited. So don't fret over whether or not you'll be surprised. If you love him and you're happy it won't really matter. Think of it this way, would you rather get a ring that you're really not happy with or have one like what you wanted? Besides, more surprises may be in store. For instance, my wedding band was still on layaway the day before I got married and I thought I'd have to wait awhile after the wedding to get it. Instead, I got surprised with it at the alter. So you never know.....The point is, getting married to the one you love is special, it won't be tarnished by the fact that you knew you were getting a ring or what it would look like.

Answer 3

Let's face it: you killed the real "surprise when you told him the condition for getting engaged and you took him ring shopping. Now it shouldn't be so much about the surprise as the presentation of the surprise. Give him several ideas on how you would like to be proposed to and let him pick. That way you won't really know which one he picks and he can still surprise you.

Answer 4

I don't think a girl should go ring shopping w/ her honey at all.. let the guy shop around and let him pick whatever he can afford, the only thing he needs to know is the size of your finger, but let him figure that out ..but a girl shouldn't go shopping for a ring w/ her honey, neither should she tell him what she wants.. let it be a surprise and stop bugging the guy, let him be creative, its not the gift that matters but the thought of it ;) think really well what you really want in life.. look at your future and make sure you want that. because like you said..you can't take back time

Answer 5

Absolutely! Don't stress about this. I thought the same thing. My fiance and I dated for almost 9 years, and we had talked about getting married all the time. We looked at rings together, we talked about where we wanted to have our wedding....everything! So I knew that he was going to propose to me in the close future. When he actually did... I was totally blown away. He actually did surprise me that day and when he got down on one knee, I was speechless. I couldn't say anything... I couldn't stop crying....It was like I had never even thought about it before. I was so excited! It was an incredible day and a wonderful memory...

Answer 6

You want to explain why the element of surprise is so important?
This isn't the movies.

If being proposed to isn't memorable enough, then you'd better rethink this whole thing. Maybe you're just in love with the idea of being in love.

Answer 7

You will still be surprised. As long as he doesn't say "I'm going to propose to you tomorrow at dinner" you will.

We looked at rings before he proposed to me and talked about other ideas for weddings.

I was still totally surprised when he proposed to me.

Answer 8

I think it will still be a surprise for you because you don't know when, where, or how he's going to do it. So you'll still have the element of surprise. Just don't drive yourself crazy thinking about it. It'll happen when the time is right.

Good Luck

Answer 9

I think you can still be surprised since you don't know exactly how he's going to do it. There's a million different ways he could and you have no idea what he has planned. Just relax and do things like you normally do. Congrats.

Answer 10

i cant help but feel he has been forced into this. i know youre not gonna like my answer and im sorry, but it sounds to me like the poor guy is your puppet. im just hoping that he really wants to do this and is not doing it because you told him to. aside from that....yeh, sounds like the surprise of it is gone. you basically told him to get you a ring and showed him the ones you liked......yep.......there goes the surprise.