Does too much work really hurt a relationship?

Question

My boyfriend has been working full time for a while and it seems to take its toll on our relationship. I have a busy work and school schedule too but I still make time to spend with him. So we promise to just make time to see eachother on the weekends. Whenever we are together he's always tired and seriously falls asleep on me where ever we go. Am I just over reacting? Should I just let him be with himself for a while? I need some advice please.

We've been together for almost 5 years. So calling it quits is the last thing I want to do. This all just started happening

Answer 1

I went to college and worked full-time. We started having a lot of problems b/c of this. I quit my job in the beginning of my 2nd semester so I can make him happy and spend more time with him. Things are way better now.
I don't encourage you to quit your job or school...I think that will be very stupid. Instead of going out, why don't ya'll spend time at each others houses?
You shouldn't be upset that he gets tired too quick (he does wrk full-time and you should know that is very stressful) Instead, why not treat him like a king? Give him a massage now and then, you know. Ask him if he wants some alone time....he will apreciate this. And no i don't think that you are over reacting...you are a girl and God knows we need all the attention in the world LOL
Just be very open w/ him and tell him how you feel.......

Hope things wrk out!

Answer 2

I'm in a similar situation. It's very difficult, we have been together for 3 years, so it's difficult to go a long time with out seeing him. However, we love each other and we make it work. We try to talk on the phone at least twice a day. Once in the morning for a quick hello and to go over what we will each be doing for the day, and then at night for a longer talk.

Right now, we both love each other, but my education and his full time job are also important. We see ourselves together for the long haul, so we know that his job and my education (then my career) will lead to the life and the goals we have with each other.

If this person is worth it, you need to make it work. You both will have days when you are stressed, tired, sick but you need to work through those. When you do, your relationship will actually be stronger.

Answer 3

To be honest, YES...it can. My last job allowed me to see many instances where couples were having some serious issues with relationships from long hours with their jobs. The matter is worse when it deals with salaried personnel and the stress increases for both parties when it's long hours with lil compensation. Over time, it does and will take its toll as I saw. What would normally be a 45-50hr week turns into 65-70hr week, depending on if big-wigs were in town visiting and evaluating.

It is fine if you two can have some quality time together to relief some work stress. Relationships are hard enough to maintain without the added stress of work. Enjoy your time with him when you can. Make the most of the time on those weekends! Do things that will leave smiles to last the week as you both are busy with your work/school. Continue to build that strong foundation for your relationship and make it last through the hardships of time spent apart due to workloads.

Best of luck. =)

Answer 4

wow, I am in the EXACT situation...it gets me SO MAD when we're at the movies and i look over at him, and his eyes are closed...i love him so much, and i know he works alot, but still, i worked 50hr weeks too, and yet i have the time and energy for him...so i expect the same, and I completely agree with you... what i did, was ignore his phone calls for a couple days, when he would ask to hang out, i turned him down, bc i said that i missed him and it hurts me when he falls asleep or doesnt seem intersted in what we're doing bc hes too tired... i really gave him the cold shoulder, which was really hard to do bc i love him, and i want to spend every waking mintute with him...well, sometimes, tough love really helps and it def. taught him a lesson... i think you should give him a taste of his own medicine and have him learn the hard way.... it will work, i guareentee it.

Good Luck! and stay patient! i know its tough, but you guys will get thru this... :)

Answer 5

Working full time isn't the mans problem there could be something/someone else wearing the poor lad out? Might need to do some serious thinking about the situation? Good Day.

Answer 6

He may be falling asleep and exhausted for other reasons you could get checked out. Make sure he's sleeping okay and doesn't have sleep apnea or anything that's interfering with his rest. Make sure he's getting good vitamins too. Try having him take a B complex supplement. It really helps with energy.

Answer 7

Depending on how much work is involved or perhaps the work he is doing is too much for him. At least he does have a job. Ask him to see his doctor to define his tiredness. Perhaps he can take some vitamins with iron. You love him so work with him at all cost. A man shall not work so much as to deny his lady attention.

Answer 8

Yes it can hurt a relationship. Give it sometime he seems to be trying. If he really cares for you and you care for him it will work out. Just let him know when your together how much it really means to you.

Answer 9

well if it's stressing you out this much then just call it quits for now then see what happens

Answer 10

Welcome to the world. If he is important to you and you to he it will work itself out. I just go and do some of my work at my ladies house and when she get home we get service and go our merry way. We do fun things when we can.